Anybody want to vent or chat about anything?

shannon_164 · June 1

Rose113 wrote: »

Spoke to calm, they were trying to care yet tough love don’t work on me and I felt very told off even though they were genuinely caring 🥲

aw @Rose113 im so so proud of you for reaching out for support!

shannon_164 · June 1

eylah wrote: »

been a chaotic night feel like i have to do everything for everyone and i get 0 support back ( not meaning here i mean irl ) hoping to go sleep now im exhausted.

thankyou all for the ongoing support!

aw @eylah i’m really sorry it’s been such a chaotic night. that sounds completely draining, and it’s so unfair to feel like you’re always the one holding everything together with no one backing you up. you deserve support too, not just to be the one giving it. i really hope you get some proper rest tonight! we’re all here for you

River · June 1

Still don’t know what happened with the girl from college 🥲 why can’t people communicate these days

River · June 1

I asked again why she’s mad at me and all I got “why do you think” and I said “no clue” and then I asked again and she put “no offence it’s not that hard to figure out”….like sorry clearly it is for me and it’s not that hard to tell me

River · June 1

Turns out it was because I left the group chat 😳

eylah · June 1

hugs @Rose113 here for you always

eylah · June 1

ive bought a junk case from tiktok! here’s the one ive put together well ive chosen charms and the glitter and colour theme.

im choosing charms for a winnie the pooh case now too!!

thought id share with you all.

DonnerKebab · June 1

Sorry everybody, missed the last day or two. A few things, @eylah awesome phone case. I know it's been tricky, but we all love you. You're an awesome person and we aren't ever gonna stop telling you that. @Rose113 You're braver than you think for reaching out. Be proud of yourself for that. If your friend is going radio silent, let them. My gran always used to tell me, don't bother with those who don't bother with you. You did a kind thing letting her pick her own path without following you around course to course. Your doing her a favour as hard as it is. Another thing to be proud of yourself about. @shannon_164 Hope your doing okay with everything. I know you mentioned college issues. How is that going if you don't mind me asking? @Redemption How are you doing bro? Much going on?

River · June 1

TW//

I keep throwing up 🫠 not sure what’s happening

Redemption · June 1

Rose113 wrote: »

TW//
I keep throwing up 🫠 not sure what’s happening

Hope you're ok

Redemption · June 1

DonnerKebab wrote: »

How is that going if you don't mind me asking? @Redemption How are you doing bro? Much going on?

@DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks bro just tired. Not much, also about the football I think they planned to do a drink after the game today but when we got off the pitch for the next people to come everyone just went home lol. Been thinking of going on a cruise at some point though would be so cool just need to get a job then ill have the money. What about you bro?

DonnerKebab · June 2

@Redemption Just the usual. Had my cousin visit me yesterday. he moved from the UK to the US 30 years ago, met him about 6 months ago and he offered to help sponsor a Visa for me to the US, but it's still an extremely difficult process to get over there. I need a job, some experience, and then i've got a good chance. Just trying to figure out which path to take now.

Anyway, a cruise sounds awesome mate.

River · June 2

Didn’t get in the college I wanted as don’t have an EHCP

eylah · June 2

@Rose113 i can relate to you bc i had an animal college i wanted to go to but bc of my ehcp plan i couldn’t get in. hugs 🫂 im sry

shannon_164 · June 2

Rose113 wrote: »

Didn’t get in the college I wanted as don’t have an EHCP

aw @Rose113 i’m so sorry to hear that as i know how excited you were about the possibility of going to that college! i know right now it might feel difficult for you, but in the end things will work out for you - i had a similar experience but now it’s worked out for me, it will for you too. how are you feeling about it? we all care about you

River · June 2

No other college will accept me in

DonnerKebab · June 2

@Rose113 That's awful news, but, it's not over. It isn't until you say it is. I know it might feel like it, but it isnt. Work with your current college or social support system, and maybe get your doctor to make a statement perhaps to support getting one, and try and get an ECHP put in place and re apply.

When it comes to ECHP, my brother got his very young and it was called something entirely different and the system was different, so I'm unsure as to the current way you get them in the current system, but these colleges will have high demand, which probably means they need people on ECHP's already, to avoid normal functioning people taking slots from those with ECHP's. It's a rather cruel system. It often fails those who need it. those who need to start getting help have to fight to get it. Do what you can to try and get an ECHP in place, and try not to be too disheartened. It's a setback, but it's not the end of the road. Far from it.

It's normal to feel gutted, but keep fighting for it rose, cause it's what you deserve. A college that is right for you.

River · June 2

@DonnerKebab honeatly I just give up, my fucking mental health and labels are letting me down it’s not fair

DonnerKebab · June 2

@Rose113 I know it's not fair. Especially when it's been system after system failing you again and again for so long, it gets people to this point. Your unbelievably strong for getting to this point honestly speaking.

But you deserve that place, and, even though it seems remote and distant, it might still be possible. I know you're probably feeling like there's no fight left in you, but sometimes it's just that we need an extra little push and a helping hand through it. I can help talk you through some of getting a ECHP if you want, how to start it, who to apply to, and what sorts of evidence you'll need. Cause it can sometimes feel like drowning in paperwork with it, but you deserve that place. They rely on people not applying because it's too much paperwork and to complex, at least my council does. Take a while to recover from this setback, but please, don't give up, and get what you deserve from them.

I know it's not the same, but my local council cut funding for my brothers school transport, and so i had to start paying for it or else no school for him. First application to keep it going failed, second one did too, and that's when i felt like rock bottom with it. But, with an appeal and a few legal loopholes, it worked finally. It's one of the reasons i never went to dorms at uni actually cause my money was going on his transport for like a year and a half. So i'm pretty good with the whole legal loopholes and paperwork side and what needs doing if you need help with it, if you choose to pursue it.

I think, and sorry if this sounds like i'm rambling, but i think you're probably feeling at that rock bottom stage, and that's the worst part of it. I'm sending you a virtual hug right now rose and am happy to talk you through everything you need to get an ECHP and reapply, if you choose to pursue it. Here to talk too if you want to just vent about it.

eylah · June 2

life is so crap i don’t know what to do tbh its just muffled rn my head is . im ok dw abt me

. im safe im just feeling stupid rn. sry

eylah · June 2

sending you so many hugs @Rose113 im always here for you bc i care abt you

DonnerKebab · June 2

@eylah we always worry about you. You're the kindest soul, and deserve more hugs than any of us. There ain't nothing stupid about how you feel. We care about you just as much as you care about us all. I'm useless with emoji's, but just for you

eylah · June 2

aw thankyou @DonnerKebab it means a lot to me

im just needing a cry but cant cry :’)

River · June 2

No im done there’s no point, I have no future oh well i cba anymore. Just gonna go spiral and lock myself in my room all night and ignore the outside world. Safe.

DonnerKebab · June 2

@eylah That's okay eylah. You don't have to do anything. Cry, not cry, it doesn't matter, just make sure you remember how loved you are here and you don't keep anything bottled up, and express yourself however you feel whether it comes out as crying or whatever else. Sending another cause I just realised they are actually really fun to send plus i think you need another one

DonnerKebab · June 2

@Rose113 Take however long you need to come to terms with it all, and remember that if you do choose to pursue it at all further, i'm here to help guide you through it all if you ever want. Same for talking, i'm here regardless if you just want to talk about anything. Again, you deserve far better than this, as hard as it is to see for you right now.

Remember, you are cared about on here, and you do deserve that future.

Redemption · June 2

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@Redemption Just the usual. Had my cousin visit me yesterday. he moved from the UK to the US 30 years ago, met him about 6 months ago and he offered to help sponsor a Visa for me to the US, but it's still an extremely difficult process to get over there. I need a job, some experience, and then i've got a good chance. Just trying to figure out which path to take now.

Anyway, a cruise sounds awesome mate.

@DonnerKebab sounds interesting bro. I hope you fer a Visa. Hopefully we both get jobs soon.

Yh cruises are cool af. Also can I ask I didn't go to my volunteering today, is that bad?

DonnerKebab · June 2

@Redemption not at all. It's draining stuff I imagine, and when you're not even getting paid out of it, it can really grind you down. Even minimum wage jobs will land you a reward of some kind at the end of the gruelling day, so i wouldn't say it's too bad if you didn't go volunteering today. If other's were depending on you coming in, like a shopkeeper at a charity shop, and you were on rota for the day with nobody else in, then it would be a bit wrong without notice, but outside of that, not really.

Redemption · June 2

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@Redemption not at all. It's draining stuff I imagine, and when you're not even getting paid out of it, it can really grind you down. Even minimum wage jobs will land you a reward of some kind at the end of the gruelling day, so i wouldn't say it's too bad if you didn't go volunteering today. If other's were depending on you coming in, like a shopkeeper at a charity shop, and you were on rota for the day with nobody else in, then it would be a bit wrong without notice, but outside of that, not really.

Cheers dude I agree @DonnerKebab hope you're good this evening too

River · June 2

Urges are kinda bad tbh

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