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  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,648 Legendary Poster
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    Sian321 wrote: »
    @eylah , I hear you, and we're here to be with you in that sadness rather than try to change it. What you've described really does sound so hard - not being able to work and feeling stuck in this world wondering what your purpose is here. Existential questions like that can be so deeply human and also, agonising when we don't know the answers. What do you think you might like for your purpose to be? Or is there anything day-to-day / any relationships day-to-day that help give a sense of meaning?

    You're doing so well to talk about this, and its positive you know those services are there if you do feel unsafe.

    i mean i have no friends noone likes me i just get bullied on by anyone who i try to make friends with so idk what i want out of life. i have noone i cant do anything i enjoy bc of physical illness its just shit rly my life is just shit.

    We all like and care about you

    i don’t think that’s true tbh.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,898 The Mix Elder
    eylah wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    Sian321 wrote: »
    @eylah , I hear you, and we're here to be with you in that sadness rather than try to change it. What you've described really does sound so hard - not being able to work and feeling stuck in this world wondering what your purpose is here. Existential questions like that can be so deeply human and also, agonising when we don't know the answers. What do you think you might like for your purpose to be? Or is there anything day-to-day / any relationships day-to-day that help give a sense of meaning?

    You're doing so well to talk about this, and its positive you know those services are there if you do feel unsafe.

    i mean i have no friends noone likes me i just get bullied on by anyone who i try to make friends with so idk what i want out of life. i have noone i cant do anything i enjoy bc of physical illness its just shit rly my life is just shit.

    We all like and care about you

    i don’t think that’s true tbh.

    We do why don't you think it's true? I think you're super kind and amazing
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    Rose113 wrote: »
    @shannon_164 aww aha I hope you can get her out soon :lol: then you can bake till your hearts content

    well i’m off to a great start, i may have bought vanilla extract because it has a blue label thinking it was blue food colouring - my sister just said “why’d you buy vanilla extract if she doesn’t like vanilla” which then made me realise maybe the blue label didn’t mean blue food colouring lol
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    edited May 31
    eylah wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    Sian321 wrote: »
    @eylah , I hear you, and we're here to be with you in that sadness rather than try to change it. What you've described really does sound so hard - not being able to work and feeling stuck in this world wondering what your purpose is here. Existential questions like that can be so deeply human and also, agonising when we don't know the answers. What do you think you might like for your purpose to be? Or is there anything day-to-day / any relationships day-to-day that help give a sense of meaning?

    You're doing so well to talk about this, and its positive you know those services are there if you do feel unsafe.

    i mean i have no friends noone likes me i just get bullied on by anyone who i try to make friends with so idk what i want out of life. i have noone i cant do anything i enjoy bc of physical illness its just shit rly my life is just shit.

    We all like and care about you

    i don’t think that’s true tbh.

    i know it might not feel like it’s true @eylah but i promise you we do care about you - i for sure care about you! <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,648 Legendary Poster
    im sry just ppl saying shit to me it’s making me sad. ( not on here )
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    @eylah you have nothing to be sorry for! if you want to talk about it, we’re here <3
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,898 The Mix Elder
    Rose113 wrote: »
    When I first joined the mix late 2021/early 2022 ish the mix was honestly a nice place and tbf I do prefer the mix with how it is now obviously some things I don’t agree with but mostly it is a nicer atmosphere. There was a lot of issues behind the scenes when I first joined but people seemed to genuinely ish like me but that changed in 2023 when something happened (non member related) and people seemed to not like me and I never even knew what I did wrong but it still sticks to me this very day and when the incident did happen it happened around this time of year (happened July) it’s always gonna stick with me and nothing members or staff do will change that and I know it’s stupid and pathetic but when it happened I sobbed for weeks and would cry myself to sleep and even know when things trigger my feelings to what happened or remember do to like an anniversary it still makes me cry. I probably can’t go into detail even tho it wouldn’t be against guidelines but yeah little back story I suppose to another reason why I don’t feel able to open up on the mix

    Was this me ? @Rose113 if you don't mind saying.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,898 The Mix Elder
    @DonnerKebab how's you bro?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    @Redemption no it was non member related stuff that was why I was able to share.
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,648 Legendary Poster
    shannon_164 wrote: »
    @eylah you have nothing to be sorry for! if you want to talk about it, we’re here <3

    oh thankyou so much it means a lot to me. i just need a hug 🫂
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,898 The Mix Elder
    edited May 31
    Rose113 wrote: »
    @Redemption no it was non member related stuff that was why I was able to share.

    Im sorry to hear it happened ❤️ anyway
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,898 The Mix Elder
    edited May 31
    eylah wrote: »
    shannon_164 wrote: »
    @eylah you have nothing to be sorry for! if you want to talk about it, we’re here <3

    oh thankyou so much it means a lot to me. i just need a hug 🫂

    Hugs from me too @eylah
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    eylah wrote: »
    shannon_164 wrote: »
    @eylah you have nothing to be sorry for! if you want to talk about it, we’re here <3

    oh thankyou so much it means a lot to me. i just need a hug 🫂

    i know it’s not the same @eylah but i’m sending you the biggest virtual hug ever right now <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,648 Legendary Poster
    hugs to you all <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    Idek wtf I’ve done wrong :/
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    @Rose113 is everything ok? we're here for you <3
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    @shannon_164 my college “friend” has been a bitch to me all day for no reason and then she’s gone and fucking blocked me like wtf tell me what I’ve done wrong before you go off on a bloody tantrum. She was fine and dandy with me yesterday but nope today she’s been so rude and blocked me and got another person to block me
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    wow @Rose113 i’m really sorry you’re dealing with that. that kind of sudden switch in behaviour, especially without any explanation, is so confusing and hurtful. you definitely don’t deserve to be treated like that, especially if you’ve done nothing wrong. it’s good that you’re standing up for yourself and asking for clarity instead of just letting it slide. hopefully she realises how unfair she’s being and either reaches out or gives you the closure you need. i’m here for you if you want to talk more about it!
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    @shannon_164 i genuinely can’t think what I’ve done wrong, anything mental health related I always tell her to tell me if it’s too much (she constantly asked about my mh) and if k told her about the college stuff then I’ve not done anything wrong with that. She kept picking a further college course based on what me and k was doing and only followed us even tho she wanted to do something else she just didn’t want to be alone so I didn’t tell her I applied for another college as I want her to do what she wants not what I’m doing but if she’s found out that and is so mad at me then why can’t she just say and speak to me about it?? I don’t get it 😭

    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    Got urges to relapse, I’m safe so please don’t worry about me.
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    honestly @Rose113 you haven’t done anything wrong from what you’ve said. you were actually trying to look out for her by not influencing her decisions, that’s really considerate, not malicious. it sounds like you’ve always been open with her and mindful of her feelings, especially around mental health stuff. if she’s upset about something, the least she could do is talk to you instead of going silent and blocking you! you deserve clarity, not confusion. i know this feels awful, but you’ve handled it with a lot of thought and care, try not to be too hard on yourself!

    i’m glad you're safe, but i hear that it’s gotten to the point where you’re even having those urges. you don’t deserve to carry all this pain alone. we are here for you, always. please try to be kind to yourself tonight, you’ve been dealing with a lot, and it’s ok to feel overwhelmed, but you don’t have to go through it alone. if it helps, pls keep talking here - we all care about you! do you have any distractions you could try?
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    I said to the other person if you don’t want to be my friend then feel free to free to say and all I got was “I’m going night” :/ I give up I cba and I’m not going college on Monday
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    aw @Rose113 that’s honestly so unfair! you gave her a chance to just be honest, and she completely shut you down instead. no wonder you’re feeling done with it all, but please don’t let her behaviour stop you from doing what’s best for you, not going to college on monday might feel like a way to escape, but it's important that you don't miss out or fall behind because of how someone else treated you. you’re allowed to feel hurt and exhausted, but i’m really proud of how you’re handling it all <3
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    I can’t deal with any of it tonight, just got home and I’m gonna burst into tears as soon as I go into my room :(
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    @Rose113 its ok if you need to cry and that you don’t feel able to deal with it all tonight, you don’t have to! pls be kind to yourself, you deserve kindness <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,648 Legendary Poster
    oh life is so miserable.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    eylah wrote: »
    oh life is so miserable.

    i’m here if you want to share anything @eylah <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,648 Legendary Poster
    shannon_164 wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    oh life is so miserable.

    i’m here if you want to share anything @eylah <3

    thankyou so much i hope you’re okay <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,801 The Mix Elder
    Spoke to calm, they were trying to care yet tough love don’t work on me and I felt very told off even though they were genuinely caring 🥲
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,648 Legendary Poster
    been a chaotic night :/ feel like i have to do everything for everyone and i get 0 support back ( not meaning here i mean irl ) hoping to go sleep now im exhausted. :(

    thankyou all for the ongoing support! <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
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