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  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    DonnerKebab wrote: »
    @eylah I'm fine thanks. how are you feeling?

    And i know this is a bit out of the blue, but I just want to remind you that we all do care about you, honestly. I think you spend so long being kind to others you forget to be kind to yourself sometimes.

    im struggling tonight quite a lot my mind is fucked. sry for swearing :/ thankyou for your kind words.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah Don't apologise for being open and honest with how you are. And it's no worries for that, i'm just speaking the truth that everybody knows and thinks about you. That you are an amazing person.
    So, what's bothering you friend? What's on your mind?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @Redemption No problem mate. I was just speaking the honest truth. And i'm fine thanks. just surviving you know. How about you? Still nervous about the course?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    @DonnerKebab i don’t want to bother you though :(. just struggling with flashbacks that happened recently etc and it’s just playing on my mind. i am just a crappy person.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah You'll never bother me with anything. I made this thread for people like you to vent and be open with everything, and quite honestly, you've been so kind to others like me, you deserve that same kindness back. And second of all, no you are not a crappy person. nobody as kind as you are is a crappy person.

    So, the flashbacks. Do you want to talk about them? it might help to process them a bit. I'm here to talk you through them if you want. I'm not very good company, but it beats nothing i reckon.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    @DonnerKebab idk how to even explain i am just having memories of what happened replay in my mind and its draining me so much. Im so tired from this 😕. thankyou for listening. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    sry for not replying sooner @DonnerKebab i am not being notified when you @ me :/ even though i have notifications on.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah It's been the same for me for a few days with the notifications. no worries. Can i ask what it's replaying if your comfortable sharing it? I can understand if it's a hard memory being replayed again and again. it would make anybody drained.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    something that happened to me. it wasnt nice at all :(. hope you’re ok i am not getting notifications. :(
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,598 Supreme Poster
    I’m having the same issue with notifications, it’s so annoying!

    Just my check in to send hugs to you all - I’m sorry you’re all having such a hard time.

    I haven’t been online much because frankly I’ve been finding it a bit overwhelming, with everything that’s gone on here recently and just a bit of what I might sometimes refer to as support fatigue, I’m putting so much into helping other people at the moment that I forget I have to stop and think :joy: so sorry i haven’t been replying as much.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah If you don't feel comfortable sharing this, it's fine, only say what your comfortable with. But, do you think there's a chance it could be a sort of ptsd flashback, recounting a traumatic situation for you over and over?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    @DonnerKebab i think that’s the case yeah it’s rly not helping me at all rn i cant sleep and im just rly drained rn. i need to sleep bc im in pain physically bc of my health conditions which am having surgery for soon and now my brain is working overtime :(.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @independent_ Don't worry about not replying that much. Take a bit of time for yourself, you deserve it.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,598 Supreme Poster
    Thank you @DonnerKebab <3 I’m away this weekend but hopefully after that I will come back on here more. I think sometimes my brain tells me I’m doing too much without outright saying “you’re doing too much”.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah have you tried sleeping tablets by any chance? They might help to put you to sleep a bit quicker than normal. You can get over the counter ones even.

    And for your ptsd, i don't know much about it generally, but have you told a therapist or gp about the flashbacks and it possibly being ptsd? They tend to jump to when they hear ptsd suggested.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    i have eupd and cptsd so it makes sense tbh. and i have tried like herbal sleeping meds but idk they just wake me up in middle of night and don’t help. but i will have to see what other options i have. thankyou so much!
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @independent_ Your awesome Independent. Have a lovely break this weekend. And yeah, i know what you mean. it's a recipe for burnout sadly if you don't take breaks from it. I'm glad your looking after yourself.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah have you tried melatonin tablets? My brother being mentally disabled, isn't able to do sleep routines and would stay awake for as long as he humanly could before falling asleep. We got melatonin tablets from the doctor which took a few hours to work but worked wonders, putting him out at like 9 or 10pm, and he would wake up about 7ish. It might be worth asking your doctors for something similar.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    oh i rly hate melatonin! they wake me up at 3-4am if i take them. the only meds ive ever had sleep wise is promethazine they helped but idk i hate tablets so find it hard.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah It's a tricky one. I don't really know many other sleeping options. Do you put a blue light filter on your phone or computer before going to bed? Because blue light from screens can mess up the bodies natural sleep patterns.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    i don’t know how to do that? 😅
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah do you have an iphone or android? And don't worry. i did a degree in computer science and didn't figure this out until a year ago.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    edited May 30
    Just dropping in here - it sounds like last night might have been really, really distressing @eylah. That sounds so scary and tiring to go through.

    Thank you @DonnerKebab too for your words, and I noticed you mentioning you're 'surviving' - we're here also if you'd like to share what you're going through or seek support.

    @eylah , I will share below a few resources which might feel supportive around flashbacks:
    https://www.ptsduk.org/what-is-ptsd/understanding-ptsd-flashbacks-and-triggers/

    https://napac.org.uk/flashbacks/

    https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd-and-complex-ptsd/self-care/

    How are you feeling this morning? What might you need today, whether thats rest and relaxation? Distraction? Connection with others?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    hi so sry @DonnerKebab i fell asleep! i have a iphone hope youre ok!

    thankyou @Sian321 i will have a look at the links thankyou so much <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah no problem. I'm happy you managed to get some sleep finally.

    So for your iPhone, i think you go into settings, display and brightness, and i think they call it night shift. I only use android so i'm not 100% of apple's way of doing it, but it will block out most blue light from your phone, which is responsible for supressing the brains natural sleep cycle. Any screens also supress it, especially before bed. Screen brightness too is a factor. Some things you may just want to try as it might help.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    ah ok @DonnerKebab thankyou so much i hope youre okay <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    @eylah I'm doing fine thanks. Thanks for asking. How are feeling today?
  • eylaheylah Posts: 7,365 Master Poster
    sry im not getting notifications at all for the mix :/ im not feeling very well physically so its making me feel rubbish. hugs 🫂
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 154 Helping Hand
    Hey everyone, i'm online for the next few hours if anybody wants to vent or just talk. Please don't be afraid to talk a little bit, even if it's just a bit of banter or talking about things you've done today.
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Connector Posts: 3,555 Community Veteran
    I just threw my drink across the floor running from a moth 😂😭
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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