Anybody want to vent or chat about anything?

Redemption · May 23

Night mate, you sleep well

DonnerKebab · May 23

Redemption wrote: »

Night mate, you sleep well

You too bro. Night.

Redemption · May 24

Morning bro @DonnerKebab

eylah · May 24

hope you all have a gd day

Redemption · May 24

eylah wrote: »

hope you all have a gd day

You too

eylah · May 25

i hope everyone has had a gd day

remember youre so loved & cared abt

.

hope tmr is a gd day to you all. tmr is a new day new start! keep going

DonnerKebab · May 25

Hi everyone. anybody want to talk?

eylah · May 25

hi

youre all probably asleep rn but im here for you all if anyone needs to talk or anything. youre all important and cared abt

Rose113 · May 25

Struggling tonight.

Redemption · May 25

eylah wrote: »

hi youre all probably asleep rn but im here for you all if anyone needs to talk or anything. youre all important and cared abt

Thanks so much Eylah, hope you're alright ❤️

Redemption · May 25

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Hi everyone. anybody want to talk?

Hey bro

DonnerKebab · May 25

@Rose113 I just want to say that we're all here to support you friend. We're here if you want to talk about it more, or just to listen to you vent if you want, or even just to let you know how awesome of a person you are which goes without saying. You can think of it maybe like a support chat if you want.

DonnerKebab · May 25

@eylah you're an absolute saint. I hope you know the same applies back to you about being loved and cared about also

DonnerKebab · May 25

@Redemption How are you doing bro? Things alright on your end? Had a good day?

Redemption · May 25

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@Redemption How are you doing bro? Things alright on your end? Had a good day?

@DonnerKebab I'm ok just tired bro, I'm ok thanks, not much on just football and stuff. what about you, how's your day been? Got anything planned tomorrow? Probably gonna head to bed soon but we'll talk tomorrow if you want.

Redemption · May 25

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@eylah you're an absolute saint. I hope you know the same applies back to you about being loved and cared about also

Agreed @eylah you're incredible

DonnerKebab · May 25

@Redemption Oh, a bit of a busy one for me. Spent the whole day having to smash apart my wooden shed which was falling to bits, break it up and burn it. An absolute bugger, so i'm shattered too. Not much planned for tomorrow.
Anyway, Glad to hear you're doing okay. Have a good sleep bro and i'll talk tomorrow.

Redemption · May 25

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@Redemption Oh, a bit of a busy one for me. Spent the whole day having to smash apart my wooden shed which was falling to bits, break it up and burn it. An absolute bugger, so i'm shattered too. Not much planned for tomorrow.
Anyway, Glad to hear you're doing okay. Have a good sleep bro and i'll talk tomorrow.

@DonnerKebab oh, good to be doing these jobs. Are you getting a new shed? Sure talk tomorrow bro. You sleep well too

Rose113 · May 26

Anyone awake

DonnerKebab · May 26

@Rose113 I am. How are you today?

Rose113 · May 26

@DonnerKebab sat here in tears tbh, I’m so confused about everything and I feel crap healthwise and I just want to scream

DonnerKebab · May 26

@Rose113 . My hearts breaking for you right now. You're not alone. I'm here to talk to about anything you want to you know. What's going on if your comfortable sharing it?

Rose113 · May 26

@DonnerKebab do you ever just have a friendship that broke apart and you found out someone didn’t want to be friends with you and it really hurt and whilst you can understand why especially if mental health comes into play but at the same time it broke your heart and then they make contact again apologising and you want to fix it all and be how it all used to be but at the same time you want to be honest with them but your scared it will come off wrong?…yeah that’s me rn. I feel like I can’t ever be honest with people because I feel like I’ll hurt them

Redemption · May 26

Hey @DonnerKebab hope you're ok today bro. Bit late to start a chat from me I forgot

DonnerKebab · May 26

@Rose113 That's a brutal situation to be in. I can't say i've ever had that, mainly because i've never had a friend, but what i will say is that you don't want to leave yourself open to being hurt again. If somebody hurt you once, and they didn't want to be friends with you anymore, and then they make contact later, and decide they do, there's nothing stopping them from hurting you again in the same way in future. How do you know it won't just happen again. You're a really good person rose, not wanting to offend or upset them, even when they've done the same to you, but you have to make sure they can't hurt you again if that makes sense. If they did it once, they are more likely to do it again.

And, on top of this, you said they didn't want to be friends with you, but now they do. That seems odd to me. I'd be cautious when approaching it. Again you're a really nice person rose, not wanting to offend or upset anybody even when they did the same to you, but you need to make sure that this isn't somebody who decided to break up the friendship, things didn't go well for them with a new group of friends or something, and they came running back, if that makes sense.

Again, i don't know the in's and outs and am generally a paranoid person at times with no clue of how friendships work, so I'm probably the worst person in the world to offer advice, but i'd say honestly, put yourself first for once, and don't let somebody who's hurt you in the past hurt you again in future. even if it hurts there feelings, because betrayal is one of the worst things out there. Be honest, and be true to how you feel about it. Don't patch things up and pretend things are the same, and put on an act with it. Just be your true self, tell them how you truly feel about it, and don't let somebody who hurt you once hurt you again. You're a great person rose, please remember that.

Sorry if this sounds like rambling or doesn't make much sense.

DonnerKebab · May 26

@Redemption No problem bro. How's today been for you?

Rose113 · May 26

Thank you @DonnerKebab i think I’m gonna be fully truthful and then if it goes wrong then at least I tried and know it won’t work out

Rose113 · May 26

Sent a really honest message and now I’m just gonna avoid messages for the next 100 years because I’m to scared to look 🥲

DonnerKebab · May 26

@Rose113 It's the best thing you can do. Because anything else that isn't truthful and how you feel is putting on a show and pretending, based on what you said, and that'll get tiring and depressing real quick. Again, you're a really great person for not wanting to upset or offend them despite them hurting you in the past, but you've got to also put yourself first and be true to yourself, and not let them hurt you again in future. I'm wishing you the best of luck with it all, because it probably won't be easy for you to do, but it's definitely the best thing for you.

Rose113 · May 26

I really don’t want to hurt them even though they hurt me

Anybody want to vent or chat about anything?

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