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Cheers bro, hopefully you're fully right. Just the job search and everything hopefully I get sorted and you do too because I want to save for a house, get a mrs, get a new car etc
That would be a dream come true wouldn't it. I think for me, at wingfest getting flirted with, was a one of, or i guess a 4 time of just because of the Lava wing challenge. I mean, besides that, there's nothing going for me in the way of a Mrs's ever. And yeah, a job would be nice. We'll get there eventually mate. That whole life would be cool to have.
I've actually have started to look at visa's myself elsewhere, cause UK salaries are actually really low now and the job market is screwed right now. You can apparently make 80,000 to 100,000 Australian dollars on a working holiday to Australia, with little to no qualifications, assuming you did overtime work, which is about up to £50,000 a year. And you can extend it for like 3 years. It's crazy, but i'm eying up that, hoping to save up and come back. I reckon, after tax, and living costs, I could save like 20K a year if i did that. I mean, that's like £60K coming back after 3 years. Again, it's a long shot, but to do that, i'm trying to save up £10K to be able to pay for flights, an apartment for the first month, and other stuff like that just setting up, like an emergency fund to get back home, and the Visa cost itself. So, i need a job to save for a visa to get me a higher paying job crazily enough so i can save. Odd stuff.
Anyway, it's a bit of a far stretch, but it's the plan I've got in mind right now. I've had very little independence in my life, so it's a big step, but maybe it'll work out. You miss all the shots you don't take. Sorry, i've rambled on a bit.
Thanks @independent_
FWIW I’m in a similar position to you both, though for different reasons. I’m 22, disabled, have been unemployed forever and pretty much rely on disability benefits. Though there are some differences, I think the 3 of us can understand each other on a level.
I know you’ve struggled a lot with not having a job @Redemption but like I’ve said to you before, it does take time to find your path.
And same for you @DonnerKebab. You will get there in the end, especially with big goals like that.
You both have the drive and determination to move forward. My situation is a little different as the determination can be there but disability discrimination is out in full force and is never going away.
Yh bro we'll get there both of us hopefully soon not everything all at once but gradually. I wish you the absolute best with all of that. Anyway bro gonna head to sleep in a few mins so we'll talk tomorrow, hopefully day time in the general chat but we'll have to see what happens. Yiu sleep well, Good night.
Cheers @independent_ I agree, I'm on my own path and everything will come into place, same for you and all of us, me and @DonnerKebab .
@DonnerKebab hey I'm pretty overwhelmed with everything tbh but I'll be ok. Hope you're well
hey i’m not so gd hru?
So, any new hobbies or interests you've explored recently mate?
Cheers @DonnerKebab , not any new hobbies yet but getting my passion back for cars again. What about you?
Anyway, I'm happy to hear that your starting to get your passion back again. It was a case for me of my passion slowly coming back over the span of weeks, back to how it was before, so don't worry if it's not fully come back to it's previous levels, it might just take time, but it's a good sign mate that it's starting to interest you again.
That's something to be proud of. I know it doesn't seem this way, especially when it's been hard for such a long time, but trust me, holding on is the best thing you can do. And you have to celebrate the small wins. That's what kept me sane over the years.
Have you spoken to anybody else about this might i ask? Is it, like, anxiety, or just general depression if you know, or just, tough circumstances? Sorry if these are prying questions, you don't have to answer them if you don't want to.
You know, just looking at the amount of supportive words you've been giving others, i really want to just say this. Sorry if it sounds creepy, but the fact that you're dealing with such hardship, and are struggling with it all, yet still made time to come out with words of support for others who are also struggling, and reminding people they are not alone with you're "your doing your best" post, which really helped me btw, is something amazing. You have a really kind soul. You really should be proud of yourself for it.
I know that when you've been struggling for a very long time, it can seem hopeless at points, like it's just going to be more of the same, but trust me. There's always hope things will get better. It sounds cliché to say, but there is. Happiness in small moments, despite all the difficulty. Sorry if this sounds like just rambling btw.
aw sending hugs. i’m here for you
@DonnerKebab model ships sounds so cool, I have a couple of model cars somewhere. It's something to do yh probably good to dust them all and clean them.
It should fully come back though but might take time a bit not too long hopefully
Sending hugs back to you as well. There isn't a lot i can really say besides what I already have, but I'm really happy to listen to you if you want to vent about it all, or just talk about it with you, or just to let you know that you're also not alone through all the hardships you're going through. Know that we're all here for you as well. And please be kind to yourself too, cause you really do deserve it @eylah .
It's a big task, but sometimes, it gives me a break from certain passions so i don't become too dependent on them 24/7 for happiness. And yeah, trust me, once you have a good time balance between hobbies and passions, and everything else, it does start to come back. I can promise you that. Not all at once, but bit by bit. Give it a few weeks mate. These are the aircraft models i'm sorting lol.
Yh they look cool man