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(Suicidal thoughts and body image) I wish my parents never gave birth to me

bignosegirly0bignosegirly0 Posts: 188 Helping Hand
edited March 17 in Health & Wellbeing
I hate my fucking body so much. I know that in the past, being underweight was the ideal look and heroine chic was in fashion. But nowadays, the modern standards for women is to be curvy and have big tits / ass.


My mom’s side of the family are all skinny and lack fat. I have that genetic as well but it doesn’t help that I’m flat chested, tall, no curves and can’t build glutes. I hate being tall and lanky.

If I was short and flat, I would have gotten away with it because men would think you’re cute and petite.

But because I’m tall and flat, I just appear manly.

Even when I got to the gym to grow glute muscles, I’m still unable to because of my poor genetics.
It sounds awful, but I wish my parents never had me because I’m stuck with bad genetics and no man will ever love me because of it.

I hate my body.
I just want to die.
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,256 Supreme Poster
    There’s not going to be much I can say to reassure you on this one, but from a fellow tall somewhat flat chested lady, all is definitely not lost. Just like there are such wide varieties of body shapes for women, there is a massive variation in what men like, and eventually you’ll find one that likes you for you (if that’s what you want). Plus, bodies can change so much over time.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 2,210 Boards Champion
    Hey @bignosegirly0. I'm sorry to hear how you're feeling. It sounds like this is something that you're really upset with. I can hear that you're frustrated with how you look, especially with genetics as it's not something we can control ourselves. @independent_ makes valid points above. We're really glad that you're here with us, as part of this community. You matter to us, and you deserve to be heard and loved.

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  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Champion Posts: 1,280 Wise Owl
    hey @bignosegirly0 🙂

    i’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. i know that nothing i say can instantly change how you feel about your body, but i hope that you know that you are not defined by unrealistic beauty standards or by what you think others expect from you. you are so much more than that!

    i get that it’s hard when you feel like you don’t fit into what society considers “ideal,” but the truth is, beauty is not one size fits all. what is seen as “desirable” changes all the time, and chasing that standard will never make you happy because it’s always shifting, but please know, you, just as you are, is enough.

    i know that when you’re feeling this low, it can be easy to spiral into thinking that your worth is tied to how you look or whether someone will love you, but i promise you, love isn’t about fitting a certain body type. the people who truly matter, the ones who will love you for you, won’t care about whether you have curves or not. they’ll care about who you are, how you make them feel, and the energy you bring into their life.

    you are so much more than the way you look, and the world is better with you in it. we’re always here for you - you’ve got this <3
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