Being adopted is a curse

Rose113 · February 21

You get adopted and have to deal with life long trauma, confusion and pain with no fucking support out there for people who are adopted

been told I have fucking ptsd but can’t get treatment because it’s to fucking severe apparently

Sian321 · February 21

This sounds so exhausting @Rose113. I can imagine it feels beyond infuriating

How are you feeling after this appointment? What do you feel like you need?

I will share some potential options below for support around being adopted:

https://www.pac-uk.org/our-services/adopted-adults/#advice - PAC-UK's specialist service provides support for adults adopted as children, and for adults otherwise permanently placed as children. We offer advice, access to adoption records, searching and intermediary services and counselling. Our PAC-UK Advice Line can provide you with more information on services you can access in your region and associated fees where applicable.

National PAC-UK Advice Line: 0300 1800 090
Our telephone advice line is open Monday, Tuesday and Friday 10.00am-4.00pm, Wednesday and Thursday 10.00am-7.30pm (excluding bank holidays).

Barnardos - https://www.barnardos.org.uk/adopt/support-birth-families-adult-adoptees

Go extra, extra gentle with yourself, @Rose113 and hope you can take the time and space you need to process this. We're all here and we're listening.

Rose113 · February 21

@Sian321 hurting, I just want help for the past I can’t keep going on with the tormenting of my own brain

it’s like being held captive in my own mind 😭 the 6th march is the last opportunity to hopefully get to support. If that appointment don’t go well then I give up just will have to accept that I’m broken and forever stuck like this

I’ve tried Bernardo’s, adoption support UK, oakdalegroup and first4adoption

I’ll try the other place that you suggested but I doubt I’ll get anywhere and it sucks

Laura_tigger82 · February 23

Would you feel comfortable sharing more about what is happening on the 6th of March @Rose113? We can hear how important this is for you.

Have you been able to try PAC-UK yet? If so, I am just wondering if you would like to share more with us about how you have found this. We are here with you to support you through this.

We believe in you! Though we can also hear how painful and confusing all of this is for you, especially with the lack of support provided

Rose113 · February 23

@Laura_tigger82 on the 6th of march im supposed to be seeing the mental health lead at my doctors

I had a look but it’s either face-face support in London or phone calls

I can’t do either

Laura_tigger82 · February 23

Wishing you the best of luck with the appointment @Rose113! Would you feel comfortable asking the mental health lead at your doctors about further resources they recommend?

I really struggle with phone calls as well, so I hear you and the frustration phone only services bring

I have noticed support related to adoption also depends on the local area! Would you feel comfortable searching 'support for adopted [and your location]'?

Rose113 · February 23

@Laura_tigger82 because of the area I live it’s quite off into the hills so usually the nearest place to a proper town is 1 hour away and the nearest city is 3 hours away

it’s so hard to find support

Laura_tigger82 · March 2

That sounds particularly difficult @Rose113 - quite isolating, would that be fair to say? How are you feeling about the appointment on the 6th of March at the moment? I am wishing you all the best of luck with this appointment. Hopefully, they may have knowledge and awareness which they can share to link you to further resources of support! We are here with you if you would like to share more with us in the meantime

Rose113 · March 2

Hey @Laura_tigger82 yeah it is

I really don’t want the appointment to happen I’m to scared to even answer the call never mind talk to him 😭

Laura_tigger82 · March 2

You deserve more support @Rose113. Struggling with phone calls on top of limited geographical space makes that more difficult but hopefully online options will help.

Do you know what might help with the call? We are all different in what helps us and how we feel but, for me, doodling helps! But also sometimes some scripts can help (or just knowing I can say I'll put them on hold or be in contact with further information). Could you maybe talk to someone about this call before taking the call as well, and what you might feel safe talking about - do you think this might be helpful with this call?

Being adopted is a curse

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