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Breaking through

TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,939 Boards Guru
in Health & Wellbeing
I’ve been feeling this way for a long time, but the past couple of years have been especially tough. I feel stuck in a rut and unhappy with where I’m at, often doubting myself wI'm really sorry you're going through this. You've been through so much, and it's completely understandable to feel drained. Just take it one step at a time you're stronger than you think. You’re not alone, and you deserve support. Keep holding on. I'm really sorry you're going through this. You've been through so much, and it's completely understandable to feel drained. Just take it one step at a time you're stronger than you think. You’re not alone, and you deserve support. Keep holding on.

I know many people feel this way at some point and tend to be too hard on themselves, but for me, it feels different. I don’t have a job, I’m not where I should be, and I feel like I haven’t achieved anything yet. I’ve tried a few things over the last two years, hoping they would lead somewhere, but they didn’t work out, and I ended up finishing both years without a job, which really gets to me. I have some things coming up that could lead to something, but they aren’t guaranteed, and I can’t help but worry they’ll flop or won’t turn out as I hoped, just like before. It’s frustrating because I don’t want to keep ending up in the same place, feeling like I’ve wasted more time. Still, I want to break this cycle, push through, and make the most of things.

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  • AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 2,173 Boards Champion
    Hey @TheNightmare, we see and hear you. I can understand that you're feeling upset with where you are. You've been taking positive steps towards your goals, but opportunities haven't always worked out, and when we're not feeling great, it makes sense that those setbacks can hurt a lot. You've kept fighting for opportunities, and you've got a couple leads now. You're right - they might not lead to anything, and that'll feel frustrating. Or, they might lead to something, and allow you break this cycle. The important thing you've done is kept fighting to get those opportunities. I'm glad to hear that you're still determined to break this cycle. We're all cheering you on! <3
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  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 434 Listening Ear
    Hey @TheNightmare , I totally echo what @Azziman has said here. Your resilience has been so, so clear, and any employer would truly be very lucky to have someone with your determination and perseverance on their team. You've had to be in this place of limbo for a long while now, and it's been exasperating to see opportunities not turn out. I can imagine it takes a lot of energy to keep pushing against this cycle week-on-week, and holding onto that knowledge that you deserve so much goodness in your future. And yet you have. You've been putting yourself out there and you continue to. In and of itself, this is a huge accomplishment <3

    Looking back over the past couple of years, if you were to define progress in other ways beyond employment, what else might you say you feel proud of yourself for / what else feels like its changed for the better?

    It's an honour to be witness to your journey, @TheNightmare , and we're all here for you to listen to the highs as well as the lows and everything in between.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 434 Listening Ear
    edited 3:15PM
    @TheNightmare , if useful at all too, there is an organisation called KNUS that offer free peer-support coaching in a 1:1, online format, helping people to set goals and work towards them. If you might find this helpful, I'll share the details below. It is totally free of charge and run by a registered charity :3
    https://knus.io/knus-chat-explained/
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,939 Boards Guru
    Azziman wrote: »
    Hey @TheNightmare, we see and hear you. I can understand that you're feeling upset with where you are. You've been taking positive steps towards your goals, but opportunities haven't always worked out, and when we're not feeling great, it makes sense that those setbacks can hurt a lot. You've kept fighting for opportunities, and you've got a couple leads now. You're right - they might not lead to anything, and that'll feel frustrating. Or, they might lead to something, and allow you break this cycle. The important thing you've done is kept fighting to get those opportunities. I'm glad to hear that you're still determined to break this cycle. We're all cheering you on! <3

    Thanks so much @Azziman will always appreciate that you're are all behind me
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,939 Boards Guru
    Sian321 wrote: »
    Hey @TheNightmare , I totally echo what has said here. Your resilience has been so, so clear, and any employer would truly be very lucky to have someone with your determination and perseverance on their team. You've had to be in this place of limbo for a long while now, and it's been exasperating to see opportunities not turn out. I can imagine it takes a lot of energy to keep pushing against this cycle week-on-week, and holding onto that knowledge that you deserve so much goodness in your future. And yet you have. You've been putting yourself out there and you continue to. In and of itself, this is a huge accomplishment <3

    Looking back over the past couple of years, if you were to define progress in other ways beyond employment, what else might you say you feel proud of yourself for / what else feels like its changed for the better?

    It's an honour to be witness to your journey, @TheNightmare , and we're all here for you to listen to the highs as well as the lows and everything in between.

    Thanks so much for this reply @Sian321 I think I feel proud of my efforts towards finding work and my determination as you and Azziman has mentioned but it's all down to the support here that's helped, I think its given me the mindset to keep going. Great to see you in the thread earlier too. Thanks again.
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,939 Boards Guru
    Sian321 wrote: »
    @TheNightmare , if useful at all too, there is an organisation called KNUS that offer free peer-support coaching in a 1:1, online format, helping people to set goals and work towards them. If you might find this helpful, I'll share the details below. It is totally free of charge and run by a registered charity :3
    https://knus.io/knus-chat-explained/

    Cheers, I'll check that out too, could be helpful.
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