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I’m so fucking pathetic (mentions of self harm and suicide)

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  • FaolanFaolan Posts: 191 Trailblazer
    You didn’t deserve the bullying you recieved and I’m really sorry to see that you feel so low ablut yourself because of the way others have treated you . No one deserves that and it really makes me frustrated because I don’t know why we cant all just be fecking kind to each other.

    I don’t feel like any of this is pathetic at all. From my perspective it just looks like you’re been treated cruelly and your brain is trying to find a way to rewrite those painful narratives to make them feel less cruel and maybe more hopeful. I don’t know if that makes sense, it made sense in my head lol .

    Anyway, I think it’s normal to crave kindness, even from eejits who think it’s great to bully us. And I guess when someone who’s hurt you has done something slightly kind it can be magnified because it contrasts so differently with the pain they’ve caused.

    I can relate to doing this because I know well I’ve done it myself with my uncle who I don’t have a great relationship with.

    I hope that in time you will realise that you are worthy and that you’re not pathetic and there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just trying to heal from very real and painful trauma in the best way that you can.
  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,458 Boards Champion
    Hey @bignosegirly0, I'm sorry to hear what you've been put through. As @Faolan says quite rightly, you didn't deserve to be treated in this way at all. You deserve to be treated well, to be respected, and to be loved. It's sad to hear that you hear you ask what's wrong with you, when you're the one that has been wronged in these situations. Coping mechanisms are just that - ways for you to cope with difficult situations like these. They might not be ideal, but in the moment you're finding whatever way you can to handle the emotional impact of the situation. Be kind to yourself - what you've been through is difficult and painful. We're here to listen to you and support you through this <3
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  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,024 Boards Guru
    Hey @bignosegirly0 , I just want to say thank you for your post and to echo what @Faolan and @Azziman have shared here <3

    It makes sense that you would want to imagine a different outcome or scenario with the people who have bullied you, and it feels powerful that in the scenarios you imagine, the bullies finally recognise just how much they've hurt you, begin to treat you with dignity, and ultimately grow to care for you a lot.

    I know you feel ashamed of yourself for imagining these scenarios, but I can imagine that it feels really gratifying - to have these people who've hurt you finally see you for the valuable, loveable person that you are. I hope you can give yourself some grace because bullying can be a truly awful and even traumatic thing to go through, and sometimes the brain is going to try and process and make sense of it in different ways.

    We don't think you're pathetic, @bignosegirly0 , in any way <3

    Sending hugs
  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,844 The Mix Elder
    @bignosegirly0 bullies r usually hiding their vulnerability. They are cowards. Bullies want ppl to come down to their level
    Crazy mad insane
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