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I know it’s not the same as physically screaming but our message space is always open if you want to scream, shout and let it all out and to even vent about it all and don’t worry you won’t be burdening me, or bothering me, or trigger me, or be putting pressure on me. I’m here for you, always and forever and that won’t ever change 🫂
Your family are really rubbish and that really isn’t fair on you and it leaves you feel so so rubbish and in a dark place with no light but we are your family, we are your virtual family and we love you especially for who you are because you are an amazing young person ❤️
Friend you don’t need an official diagnosis to be feeling this way, diagnosis or not how you are feeling is still valid and it always will be ❤️ even if years too come and there is no official diagnosis then that’s Okie, how your feeling and the way and why you are feeling will always matter and it will always be valid.
Life has been extremely horrible to you for years and it’s understandable that it’s left a lasting effect and an effect that will take time to work through and I know lately it feels like it’s not getting easier but as each day passes weather it goes slow or fast it’s a less day that this pain will continue ❤️
Soon you will have free rain to make your life your own and till that day comes and even beyond we will always be here to help guide you through 🫂❤️
Sending you ducks and hugs 🤗 🦆 @Chloe234
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It sounds incredibly heavy and exhausting to carry so much on your own. The pressure of trying to appear okay while feeling this way inside can be overwhelming, especially when it feels like no one fully understands just how much you're pushing yourself just to get through each day. Like @Rose113 shared above, everything you’re experiencing is valid, with or without labels, and it's clear that you're going through something very real and painful. You don’t have to have an official diagnosis to be struggling - what you’re feeling is valid, and it matters. The exhaustion, the disconnection, and the pain you’re describing aren’t things you’d make up; they’re genuine struggles, and you deserve to be supported.
Having to hold it together around your family and only being able to fall apart in private must feel isolating. It's worth saying that you don't have to be strong all the time, Chloe. You can be yourself here for sure. Are there ways we here can help support you? Please keep reaching out - it's okay to need support.
just wanted to say pretty much what the others have said. we are all always here for you and we want you to remember that your feelings are just as important as everyone elses. if you need a place to vent or just let things out of your mind and onto here then that's okay. i know it can be hard when there isn't things like a diagnosis behind your struggles, but the things you go through are still real and valid and you are absolutely not alone. tbh i think i probably have at least some anxiety - i've always been quite an anxious person - although i don't have any official diagnosis for it, so i get the feeling of it seeming invalid to say.
it must be hard to feel like you've gotta carry all of this on your own as well - just try and remember there will always be someone on here to support you when you need, and that
sending you the biggest of hugs
I also just want to echo what the others have said in terms of having a diagnosis or a label. Whether you have a diagnosis or not, it unfortunately won't suddenly change your emotional struggles. How you feel right not without one is completely valid, but I also hear your frustration in struggling with your mental identity. Being able to look at someone who feels the same as you and has the diagnosis can be validating and maybe even bring you a bit of relief, but I hear you that it feels like you're a bit of an imposter. I truly do not believe you're making this up in your head. You have been so brave and strong sharing your struggles with us and we hear you completely. I know I say it in most messages to you but I will keep shouting it from the rooftops: you deserve support Chloe.
I'm curious what your thoughts are around taking the steps to get a diagnosis, like contacting your GP. Is it something you've tried before? Whilst you do not need a diagnosis, I wonder if it would bring you some peace of mind. No pressure to reply to this today Chloe, or to reply at all. Take your time
I hear you that you find GPs triggering. Do you think having someone with you might help with it? I'm just wondering how you could get some more support or a possible diagnosis if that's what you're looking for. Can I also clarify what you mean by "until my mental health wins"?
Understandably having a friend that has had multiple attempts must be very overwhelming and probably quite draining for you. It's so kind of you to be so supportive of your friend but at the same time too you shouldn't push your mental health to one side. I know you mentioned you find it difficult setting boundaries with them and that's okay, but perhaps signposting them to other services might be more beneficial for them as well as you. That way you are still showing you care but are also alleviating the pressure off your shoulders too.
Regarding the intense CBT service you have been referred to, I think that sounds like a step in the right direction. I know it will be scary at first and things may feel overwhelming but these people are trained to ease you in gently and not to stifle you in any way. How do you feel about it? Do you think you might find it useful? At the same time if it doesn't work for you that's okay. CBT is not for everyone but that isn't the end to your options. We can come together to think about what might be the best next step for you.
The CRIES assessment they want to conduct will probably just be to make sure to rule out any possibilities, and it may sound daunting but they will make sure that you are comfortable, and if it's too much you can stop at any time. The people delivering the assessment will guide you through it.
I think assigning you a youth worker is good news too because it will helpfully allow you to learn so coping strategies and being a bit more independent too. Understandably though it will feel overwhelming because it seems they have suggested a lot of things at once, so take your time with it all and just go day by day. There is no rush so just be patient with yourself.
Let us know how it all goes on
Sorry to hear yesterday was a difficult day. How are you feeling this morning? I am hearing how you’re not wanting to bring it up to your friend as it will bring up some diffcult emotions from before. I can understand how difficult this is. I wonder if maybe another way of explaining to your friend maybe you could do it like a poem or a voice note or something that means that you don’t actually have to have that conversation face-to-face or verbally? Just taking it out your own pace and if you don’t wanna talk about certain things then it could be difficult saying it’s important that you have those boundaries and if you don’t want to talk about something you don’t feel like you have to
You are so brave and amazing and you have gone through so much in your life already are an inspiration to all of us to keep going despite all the challenges, but I can hear how hard it is.
Sending love ❤️