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i hope things will be better for you today
we are all here for you to listen if you need a place to offload and stuff - you've got this
It sounds like your first two days have been really challenging, and it’s completely understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and disappointed. Starting something new can be tough, especially when it feels like you're not finding your footing socially yet. I really admire how you’ve been reflecting on the experience, especially recognising how your anxiety and emotions were playing out. It’s a big deal to even show up and engage when you’re feeling that way.
It's good that Friday was slightly better, and it’s great that someone more outgoing sat next to you and engaged in conversation. Even small improvements can be a sign that things might shift in a positive direction. Writing the letter sounds like a brave step to share your story with your lecturers as a way to help them understand you better.
How are you feeling about your ability to connect with your lecturers moving forward? Do you think having more one-on-one time with them could help you to share those other things you'd like to talk to them about? Also, how do you feel about the new person in your class? Do you think there's potential for a friendship with them?
I get that writing these things down can be a lot easier than facing that conversation face to face. It's really positive to hear that you've been able to write another letter. You could always give this to your lecturer at the end of your next class and say that you had realised you had more context to add to your first letter.
This shouldn't change how they see you @Chloe234 and it certainly shouldn't make them not want to have you on the course anymore. The fact that your lecturer set this task, shows that they're open to wanting to learn more about you all. It sounds like they're invested in everyone in the room and they know that to be able to support everyone, they need to know a bit more about what everyone is facing. Of course you should only share whatever you feel comfy sharing, but it sounds like it might be helpful for them to be aware of some things so they can support you through the course.
I understand the age gap can be quite daunting at your age, but if you're in the same class then the gap might not be so apparent when you're both in the same boat. It's totally normal to feel this way about making friends. It's daunting for most people! If approaching some people the first time didn't work, don't let this get you down. You've got a lot to give and you're a lovely, kind person who anyone would be lucky to be friends with.
How are you feeling about this upcoming week at the moment? We are here to support you through this and it sounds really positive that you were able to have fun looking at Makaton and nursery rhymes - one of my favourite parts about earlier education/childcare!
How did you feel about her saying she will do better and the overall conversation you had together?
It's understandable to not want to be part of that group and the feelings you're having about being invisible. It's actually really hard with big groups of people and you're not alone in finding that hard. It's really good you know what's comfy and not so comfy for you when it comes to friendship groups. Am I right in thinking it was just the two of you before hanging out together and smaller groups are what feels more comfy for you?