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Hope things get better for you, we're here to support you whenever you need
Your thoughts and feelings are valid. It's really easy for people to assume that others might think and feel how they do, and then not know how to respond to someone who does actually feel different to them. It wasn't fair of your friends to treat you differently for feeling differently though and it's understandable that this would then make you feel isolated. Having feelings that are different to others sounds isolating on it's own, but more so when others haven't been able to validate your feelings.
Feeling like people want to change your feelings is a tricky subject. In some cases, it may well be that someone didn't intend for a comment or behaviour to upset you. So I can understand why others might try to tell you that the intention to hurt you wasn't there, leading you to feel isolated again. However, just because the intention to upset you wasn't there (as in, it wasn't deliberate) it doesn't mean that your feelings are invalid. Things can still hurt even when someone doesn't intend for it to hurt.
I think of it as like a balancing act....it can help to think about whether the intention to causes offence was really there or not as it can help us decide how to proceed (whether we should just let it go or whether we need to talk to the person and let them know that their behaviour harmed us), but equally, our feelings do matter. Our feelings are real to us regardless of other people's intentions. So sometimes changing our perspective can help but we shouldn't ignore our feelings either.
It is difficult to want to do things that we know might help us when we are in a low mood. You're not alone in dealing with that. I hope that the low mood passes for you though
Thank you for being honest about how you're managing things - it's not an easy thing to say, but hopefully it lifts a weight off your shoulders to do so. Of course, that's exactly what this space is for, where you can explore these emotions.
Momentum can be a really valuable asset. When we lose it, it can feel like a big hit, and it can look like a lot of effort to restore it. Something I've learned about momentum is that it starts with small steps forward, which, repeated over time, build into a really strong force. Even a tiny change can get the ball rolling! I hope that you're able to get that momentum back in time
I’m sorry to hear you feel isolated, I know it’s difficult when it feels like or own brains are against us, bringing up hurtful scenarios that just make us feel even worse. Especially when these thoughts are based on painful memories that you do not need being brought up when you’re having a hard time already, it makes it feel even more real and isolating.
How have you been feeling about this lately? Remember that the community are here for you