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The people I used to look up to - a mini little rant
Amy22
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I just had this sudden realisation that the people that I used to look up to including youtubers and some bands have eventually abused their powers and have done wrong and bad horrible things. Like last night I was listening to some songs by a band called Tally Hall and I decided to type their name into Google. The search showed that apparently the lead singer allegedly was doing bad things with younger people including transphoabia. I only discovered this band the other day and now I made myself search up the controversy of the band because I myself am not a great person either for supporting these people. I decided that last night I would delete their songs from my Spotify playlist and unfollow them. The thing is I don't like people doing bad things. It makes me worried that maybe I am my own monster after all because I used to support these people who I no longer don't because of how bad they did. Sorry for the long rant I just needed somewhere to dump my stupid rants and thoughts.
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You didn't know about the bands controversy when you first found them, so I don't think you are a bad person for having liked or supported the band. It's also possible to separate the art from the artist- it's okay to like the songs but not support the band. Either way, you're probably not a monster like you think you are- after all, you made the effort to delete the songs and unfollow the band, even though you didn't know about the controversy when you first found them. If anything, that goes to show how passionate you are about not supporting people who do bad things- which can only be a good thing
I know it can be disappointing to find out the music you like is by an artist who may have done things that are wrong and harmful.It's understandable that this could lead to feelings of being part of the problem
I think I had a similar scenario with
Sorry to hear that another one of your favourite bands ended up being accused of bad things. That must be upsetting to hear. It's not possible to know why this keeps happening. But since this is happening and if you are struggling with it, then it might help to try not to look up bands or songs on the internet, in case you see things that are upsetting. But you're not a bad person for liking this song or the band though
Do you think it's becoming something similar to a compulsion? I've seen some of your posts recently and you seem to have a lot of concerns over morality in your life (e.g. the fan fics) so I'm wondering whether it's something you can relate to?
I definitely sometimes feel like certain things I see end up being compulsions for me to do because I suddenly get this sudden urge in my brain to take action. I hate not doing something and I also hate things or actions being unfinished. I don't know how best to explain this but sometimes it does feel like morality is a major concern of mine maybe what my anxiety and OCD is mostly based around. I think maybe it is something I can relate possibly I don't know. I just wanted to ask a question and I don't want this to sound wrong or worded the wrong way. But what do you mean by something I can relate to (is this to do with the fan fic posts or um the compulsions). Sorry just a little confused sorry
Obviously I don't want to diagnose but the concern over morality can be common with OCD resulting in behaviours such as checking for reassurance like you have said with the music artists that they are not problematic
It sounds like a cycle where you feel anxious about the morals of what you are doing and then you feel the need for checking and reassurance that brings temporary relief until you are anxious again
Hope that clears it up