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Past User · August 2023

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Former Member · August 2023

@Past User It sounds like you're experiencing a deep sense of disconnection and frustration, as if you're struggling to find your place and relate to the world around you. You're not alone in feeling this way – many people, like myself, have experienced similar thoughts and emotions. However, it's also important to recognize that your uniqueness is a strength, and there are some ways to find connections and understanding even when it feels difficult: self-discovering, seeking out common interests, chatting with close ones, practicing mindfulness, and so on.

Remember that finding where you fit is a journey, and it's okay to take your time. Focus on finding connections that nurture your well-being and make you feel valued. You are unique, and your perspective has value, even if it doesn't always align with the mainstream.

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sputnik · September 2023

Hi @Past User, sorry to hear you're feeling so rough right now, I can relate to a lot of what you said. I often feel lost and adrift in the world, and overwhelmed by what's going on around me, or lack thereof. It's a horrible feeling and I really sympathize

You're doing really well to write down what's going on for you.

Remember that fitting in, and finding where you fit, are two very different things

'Fitting in' is more like squeezing yourself into a box in order to be accepted into a certain group, whereas 'finding where you fit', as Terry8936 puts it, is about finding out what is right for you and where you feel safe and comfortable, fulfilled etc. That can take a long time but that's OK (and nothing is ever perfect), it's not a destination but more of a process that will happen throughout life. I'm still a long way away from feeling I fit anywhere myself, but sometimes it seems more within reach than other times, which is OK too, as how you feel is in a constant state of flow

and sometimes I get a feeling of belonging for a little while, in certain situations.

I hope this makes some kind of sense haha, sorry if it's confusing. Keep at it!

Azziman · September 2023

Hey @Past User, just wanted to chime in here. I can understand the frustration - we all want to feel like we belong somewhere, and so not having that feel scary and isolating. You're definitely not alone - I think a lot of people will feel like this at some point, and sometimes it can take some time to get there. But the important thing is to keep trying - it's more important to get a good fit than a fast one, so be persistent and keep meeting people to find that crowd. Don't count yourself out - there are billions of people in the world, so there are bound to be people that you can share a bond with. Believe in yourself, because you can find that place to call home if you keep trying. That community is out there, waiting for you to come and introduce yourself

sharelle · September 2023

Hi @Past User , I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way, but know that you're not alone in what you are feeling. I know it is sometimes not what you want to hear, that other people also feel this so it is okay, but I believe a lot of individuals feel this form of disconnection to those around them because they've always been surrounded by people who are in their area / school / etc. almost based on where their parents / guardians have decided to place them. I have seen many people overcome this feeling of being lost and not fitting in when they actively seek out new people, a new crowd, doing things out of the ordinary for themselves and those they don't fit in with, because this helps you meet new people with different personalities, interests, and walks of life. It is a matter of time before people find who they truly have the same energy as and fit in with. I understand that it can be an awful feeling to feel this way, but do trust the process of like-minded individuals and energies attracting one another, because it will come in time! & remember that everybody has a different timeline for everything, whether that be finding true friends, a partner, education, job searches, etc., so don't feel like you need to rush to find people you click with, because it will happen at a time when it is supposed to

Always here to chat if you need to speak about it more

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