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Different situations have been upsetting me
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Hi, how r u feeling right now?
It sounds like the people you are surrounded by are self-centred and that your surroundings are not welcoming of you as an individual. You deserve better and I hope you can seek solace in this community - we're all here for you
If you don't mind me asking, were other people understanding of your difficulties at uni? Did you speak to another member of staff about your mentor? Have you tried sharing your feelings about your friend's behaviour with that friend?
I can completely understand how sharing those feelings with your friend must be challenging. I have been exactly in your position but also in the position of your friend. Knowing that you are surrounded by people who don't provide you with comfort, I can see why it seems that it is a better option to not say anything to your friend since they are your friend, one who is easily there for you. However, I believe that friendships must be honest. Even if that honesty cause pain, it is getting through that painfulness in a supportive and respectful way (one that looks towards the future and seeks to improve one's behaviour for oneself and each other than grieving on one's past behaviour) that the genuine friendships are formed - a friendship that feels like a home, one where you can seek solace. Although, it is completely up to you. It is important to know your needs - so the question is, what do you need in a friend?
I can see how difficult it is to share your feelings, even at your own home which I can relate to. In that case, I believe it would be best for you not to share your feelings with them since it would do more harm than good and I rather not see you more low-spirited. However, I'm aware that doing so will still produce the same effect due to the fact that you cannot share your feelings. I'm so sorry that you have to face that. I can tell by the way you write that you never really had a space to express yourself, is that correct? You seem to hold yourself back from expressing your emotions, as if it's out of protection or to help process your overwhelming emotions to keep them under control. It seems that you have been alone in your journey concerning your mental health since it seems that you can only turn to yourself to seek comfort. However, I'm so glad that you've reached out; it is important that you have a space where your feelings are heard and validated somewhere so I'm glad you've discovered this community
When you have negative thoughts, you can speak about them here too. I will try my best to convince you to look more towards the light (but in a way that still recognises your feelings of course - I truly wish that you can find some hope and experience some joy even in its smallest form).
Even though i don't know you, I can easily tell that you're a very a self-aware person and brave to be able to share your thought with us. Please do not ever think that your alone in this, as we're always here in case you feel isolated, sad or down.
I know that it's very hard to deal with overwhelming emotions, but I can assure you that you won't have to deal with this yourself, and everytime you find yourself feeling like you're trapped in a black hole, we'll to our best to guide you and maje you feel better. Here you don't have to hide your feelings, and I'm very sorry to hear that you feel like you have to in your house... You have every right to not be satisfied when you have to feal with people who are self-centered and don't pay enough attention to your needs and feelings!
How are you feeling at the moment? Has the day been any good for you?
I'm happy to hear that you were able to speak to a friend who acknowledged your feelings. It feels nice to know that someone is willing to hear us out when we're feeling down! Some people when faced with this situation may naturally respond with solutions when we might not want to hear it. I find it can be helpful to start the conversation by saying that you just want your friend to listen, and that you're not looking for a solution from them. Setting the expectations clearly will help you to focus the conversation on how you feel here and now, and hopefully that will help you to feel more comfortable sharing your feelings with friends.
I know that these things can take some time to get used to, but that's okay - we're in no rush! Please feel free to post a comment or thread when you feel like you have something you'd like to express