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  • Former MemberFormer Member Believer in Pluto Posts: 131 The Mix Convert
    @Chloe234, Please know that you aren't pathetic for feeling this way. When going through loss, there's usually a person we cling to. And your cousin just happens to be that person. It's okay to be dependent on family and have close relationships with them. I'm happy you have such a strong bond with her. I'd encourage you to keep in close contact with her when y'all aren't actively together with each other. Have a good cry if you need, it's therapeutic. Here if you want to talk about it more.
    -Vinnie
  • AislingDMAislingDM Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    It sounds like you have a really beautiful relationship with your cousin and that should never be seen as pathetic @Chloe234 <3 Sometimes when a person makes us feel so safe, loved and understood, it can feel quite devastating when they leave (even if that only means leaving to go home or going on holiday, rather than leaving permanently).

    It seems like after experiencing so much painful loss, you are looking for that safety in someone else who can understand, and i think this is a really brave thing to do. Not everyone can be vulnerable enough to say they need human connection, and here you are asking for it so strongly. =)

    Sometimes, it can help to just talk about the person you love, even when you cannot be with them in person. So, how about you tell me the best things about your cousin? What makes her feel so safe to you? <3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 203 Trailblazer
    Hey @Chloe234

    Thank you for sharing with us and by no means are you pathetic in any way. It's good to cry to release trapped emotion and there is no right or wrong with that. I feel like I can relate to you, having some deep-rooted abandonment issues has meant that I hate goodbyes. Even if it is just a goodbye for a month, whenever I have spent a couple of days with my mum or my partner, I still cry when I leave them even though it won't be that long until I see them again. You have lost your step-mum, whether you are still grieving or not, this sounds like it has left you with some internal trauma so that it feels like they are leaving you for good, and you are suffering the loss over and over. I know this is easier said than done, but try to appreciate the positive in this, that you have someone who is so special to you, who is your safe person. It sounds like you have a really special relationship with your cousin.

    Be gentle with yourself and please don't think you are pathetic <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 203 Trailblazer
    @Chloe234 - just checking in with how you are feeling in more recent days?

    <3
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    Ah, I love that. Sometimes that's exactly what we need. A bit of a joker who knows just when to lighten the mood <3 She sounds like a truly wonderful person @Chloe234 , it's no wonder you value her so much! I'm sure she feels the same way about you xx
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