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Chloe234
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Im so pathetic. I feel like crying just because my cousin just left who came down to see us. shes my safe person, when im with her everything feels better. Ever since i lost my stepmum its been like this. I feel like she gets me, shes there for me but when she goes back home from being down even tho shes alive i feel like ive lost her. I feel like shes gone.
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-Vinnie
It seems like after experiencing so much painful loss, you are looking for that safety in someone else who can understand, and i think this is a really brave thing to do. Not everyone can be vulnerable enough to say they need human connection, and here you are asking for it so strongly.
Sometimes, it can help to just talk about the person you love, even when you cannot be with them in person. So, how about you tell me the best things about your cousin? What makes her feel so safe to you?
Thank you for sharing with us and by no means are you pathetic in any way. It's good to cry to release trapped emotion and there is no right or wrong with that. I feel like I can relate to you, having some deep-rooted abandonment issues has meant that I hate goodbyes. Even if it is just a goodbye for a month, whenever I have spent a couple of days with my mum or my partner, I still cry when I leave them even though it won't be that long until I see them again. You have lost your step-mum, whether you are still grieving or not, this sounds like it has left you with some internal trauma so that it feels like they are leaving you for good, and you are suffering the loss over and over. I know this is easier said than done, but try to appreciate the positive in this, that you have someone who is so special to you, who is your safe person. It sounds like you have a really special relationship with your cousin.
Be gentle with yourself and please don't think you are pathetic
Thankyou @mk1881 yeah i do keep in contact with her, not as much as id like to but as much as i can as she has a pretty busy job (she works transporting patients to-and-from hospital
Thankyou @AislingDM Hmm the best things about her and what makes me feel so safe, probably how caring and understanding she is. And also probably her sense of humor, shes never afraid to crack a joke or two
Thankyou @RenP ive not been the best honestly but plodding along, wouldve been my stepmums birthday this month so thatll be hard. I guess im just waiting for the next bad thing to happen school and all the stress with that isnt helping either but I'll live