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What advice would you give to someone struggling with change?

AoifeAoife Posts: 3,222 Boards Guru
in Health & Wellbeing
Hey everyone,

Change is something we all go through and it can be really difficult to go through too whether it's going to a new school, starting a new job, moving somewhere or another life change. I thought this would make a nice discussion here for everyone to share their own tips to help others who are struggling with change.

Comment below you tips <3
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,503 Part of The Furniture
    edited August 2022
    Hey @Aife I think this is a great thread. I wish we could do more threads on things like these. I totally agree with you on change, as it can be a daunting thing to go through and everyone will probably experience change throughout their lives. I know change can be a very scary thing, but change can be good in some ways. This is because, with change comes a new adventure and a new experience. Change often leads to the next chapter in our lives.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 109 The Mix Convert
    it sounds daft, but i find the bigger changes easier if you incorporate little changes into the day-to-day too, like buying a different brand of biscuits, or walking a different route or watching a new tv show or whatever, rigidity just makes the inevitable changes harder but also it's just a bit boring!!

    im sure we're all fed up of hearing that mindfulness is a panacea (i want pancakes now), but people who are regular meditators cope with routine better. also, rituals!! having a little ritual before we do something helps for some reason - i remember a psych study where 2 groups of people had to sing dont stop believing in front of judges and the group that did some weird ritual where they put salt on some paper and scrunched it up or whatever were better singers

    rituals must have some science behind them because astronauts do it! american astronauts play poker with the ground people until they win to "get rid of the bad luck" and russian cosmonauts pee on the wheel of their bus on the way to the launchpad because that's what Yuri Gagarin did

    great thread and advice so far!
  • Past UserPast User Posts: 0 Community Veteran
    edited August 2022
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    I'd defo start with the change that feels the least daunting, but even if that proves difficult (as is often the case with change in our lives) I'd suggest something really basic that sounds silly, fake it till you make it! Sometimes change is only incorporated, as @Owl says, when they become habituated to our daily routine.

    So, even if you cannot reckon with the idea of actually going through changes, you can pretend you are until it doesn't hurt so much.

    Plus sometimes changes are easier to make if we are surrounded by people who can support us with the changes (for example, I found it harder not to smoke when I was going out with people who are all smokers) this does not mean you cannot be friends with people who are not on the same path as you, but rather thinking of the people around you and working out who you feel least flexible to change around. That way you can start little moments of change away from them until it gets easier (this advice does not apply to all changes obviously !!) =)
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