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I quit but now I wish I hadn’t.
millz
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in Work & Study
I have worked my whole life, I worked in my parents shop after schools whilst growing up, I had paper rounds when I was old enough to and I have been working in a little store, just me and my manager for 4 years.
My pay was not great but it got me by, it paid my rent, car insurance and other bills and left me with some money to go out with friends or treat myself every now and again.
I live with my boyfriend who is the laziest person ever. He has been fired from every job he’s ever had. He brings no money into our home and all he ever does it take take take. He sits at home all day on his xbox and should I ask him to please find a job, it ends in a massive argument and I find myself sleeping on the sofa.
I quit my job today. I turned up this morning 1 hour before opening time so that I could unlock, sweep up and prepare for the day. A customer was stood at the door waiting for me to get there, I opened up and she stormed in despite me saying we aren’t open yet. She’s yelling at me because an item which we had sold to her was broken, I offered to swap it but she wanted a refund. I do not make the rules, but my boss doesn’t allow this. She was shouting and screaming and I was trying to calm her down whilst holding back tears
I told her id call my boss, he said he’d be right down (he lives above the shop) and he came in and the lady was still angry, shouting, yelling, getting ready to throw fists and my boss starts joining in with her! He says that he can’t believe I’d sell a broken item, I should’ve checked it first, he called me a “dumb, useless blonde”. I was humiliated, this was not my fault. The lady received her refund and left.
I broke down in tears purely out of embarrassment. I’m not a weak person and it’s so rare I cry but I have never felt so intimidated and bullied. I told my boss I wanted to leave and he said I cannot do that without handing in a notice. I told him that I quit right here on the spot. He said no and stood infront of the shop door not letting me leave, I was upset and adrenaline was rushing through my body. I grabbed his arm tried to pull him out of the way but wasn’t strong enough, he stood there and laughed. I got my phone out to call my boyfriend and he grabbed my arm, he got really close to my face and told me to get out, he stepped out of the way of the door and i went back home.
I’ve had an awful day. I don’t know how my bills are now going to get paid. I want to call my mum and tell her but I don’t want her to feel worried and like she has to help me with money. 😭😭😭😭 I have never, ever experienced anything like this.
My pay was not great but it got me by, it paid my rent, car insurance and other bills and left me with some money to go out with friends or treat myself every now and again.
I live with my boyfriend who is the laziest person ever. He has been fired from every job he’s ever had. He brings no money into our home and all he ever does it take take take. He sits at home all day on his xbox and should I ask him to please find a job, it ends in a massive argument and I find myself sleeping on the sofa.
I quit my job today. I turned up this morning 1 hour before opening time so that I could unlock, sweep up and prepare for the day. A customer was stood at the door waiting for me to get there, I opened up and she stormed in despite me saying we aren’t open yet. She’s yelling at me because an item which we had sold to her was broken, I offered to swap it but she wanted a refund. I do not make the rules, but my boss doesn’t allow this. She was shouting and screaming and I was trying to calm her down whilst holding back tears
I told her id call my boss, he said he’d be right down (he lives above the shop) and he came in and the lady was still angry, shouting, yelling, getting ready to throw fists and my boss starts joining in with her! He says that he can’t believe I’d sell a broken item, I should’ve checked it first, he called me a “dumb, useless blonde”. I was humiliated, this was not my fault. The lady received her refund and left.
I broke down in tears purely out of embarrassment. I’m not a weak person and it’s so rare I cry but I have never felt so intimidated and bullied. I told my boss I wanted to leave and he said I cannot do that without handing in a notice. I told him that I quit right here on the spot. He said no and stood infront of the shop door not letting me leave, I was upset and adrenaline was rushing through my body. I grabbed his arm tried to pull him out of the way but wasn’t strong enough, he stood there and laughed. I got my phone out to call my boyfriend and he grabbed my arm, he got really close to my face and told me to get out, he stepped out of the way of the door and i went back home.
I’ve had an awful day. I don’t know how my bills are now going to get paid. I want to call my mum and tell her but I don’t want her to feel worried and like she has to help me with money. 😭😭😭😭 I have never, ever experienced anything like this.
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im sorry I cant offer much advice, but maybe going to citizens advice would be worth looking at? they can help you with benefit forms while you find another job, which im sure will be soon! as for your boyfriend I don't know what to suggest, no one can make him change his ways apart from him, he has to want it.
maybe telling you mam could be useful, having someone there to support you through this, she doesn't have to help you out with money unless you need it...
sorry I wasn't much help just wanted you to know im thinking of you and sending lots of hugs! I hope today is a better day for you
that is an awful way to be treated at work. I agree that was definetly not your fault at all. You handle the situation really well for how horrible the lady was being and did what you was suppose to do.
take lots of care
Thank you so much for your replies. I wrote this in desperation and I was sat sobbing my heart out whilst typing but it has been a few days now, I’ve since had time to calm down and think about things logically.
Bubbles, I don’t think it’s that I want to go back. I think it’s more the fact that I’m worried about the unknown. I don’t have a stable job, it’s going to be difficult to find one with the concerns of the corona virus and I’ve never claimed benefits, ever... I wouldn’t even know how or what I’d be entitled too😳! I’ll get in touch with citizens advice on Monday and hopefully they can help me out 🤞🏻!
@Mike Things between my boyfriend and I are typically OK. He is much older than i, he is 38 years old. We have fallen out a lot over him stealing money when we need it the most, he spends £10 here and £20 there on the Xbox and although that is just small amounts of money, it all adds up when he’s spending every day or even week. He can be the most thoughtful person ever but he can also be very selfish. I have get him out of bed sometimes at 2,3 or even 4 in the afternoon, he doesn’t touch the house work, and I have to actually ask him to shower himself sometimes. He had a tough family life and we often sit and talk about mental health. He is depressed, the doctor gave him medication and he never went and fetched it from the chemist. We were on a waiting list for him to see a counsellor but decided to go private instead and we pay £50 per week for his counselling sessions. He has been to one so far so early days. I also suspect that he has autism but when mentioning this to the doctor, due to his age, little interest was shown.
I called my mum yesterday and had a cry. I don’t think it’s just work but life in general at the moment has been feeling very draining. I’m much better now than I was when I posted this.
Thank you every one for the thoughtful comments x
How are you feeling/managing now?
Take care