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How healthy is it to check what your partner is up to on social media?

AifeAife LondonCommunity Manager Posts: 2,646 Boards Champion
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Hey everyone,

With social media being so accessible now it's very easy to check up on your partner's social media activity. How healthy is it to check what your partner is up to on social media?

Look forward to hearing your thoughts!

- Aife
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  • MirabelleMirabelle Owl Whisperer Kensington.Posts: 1,020 The Mix Regular
    Checking up on one's partner's social media shows distrust and could be viewed as a form of stalking. Unless one has a valid reason, such as the friends we share, I think checking up is best not done.

    For couples who have broken up, there is a more serious aspect in cyber-stalking. If that happens often, then it breaks the other person's privacy. Stalkers who persist can be reported for harrassment as shown here: https://www.gov.uk/report-stalker
  • SiobhanSiobhan Posts: 14,447 Born on Earth, Raised by The Mix
    Idk. maybe ive read wrong. But if you follow their social media accounts wouldnt need to check up on their social media accounts? Would just show up on feed? I dont think is unhealthy unless go out of their way everyday to see things like - what they have been liking on social media & stuff.

    Think would be unhealthy to keep checking someone just broke up with though.
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  • peachysoopeachysoo Posts: 151 Boards Initiate
    Completely agree with @Mirabelle. Checking up on your partners social media, at least if you're doing it regularly and/or with certain motives behind it (due to distrust), is definitely not something that should happen in a healthy relationship. It'd be best to talk to the other party about any insecurities or worries that are likely to have driven the person to act like this.

    -peachysoo
  • FranFran Posts: 118 Boards Initiate
    Hey everyone!!
    I agree with the fact that checking up on one's partner social media shows distrust. I refer to accessing his/her account through the password without the other one being aware of that but also checking up on every activity the partner has on the social media, such as likes and comments or followings. If I actually knew that my partner did that to me I would feel lost and distrusted, so I can't see the point in doing it myself.
    Talking about any possible insecurity is definitely the best option ever.

    -Fran
  • PositiveAuraPositiveAura Posts: 150 Settling in
    Hi Everyone!

    I think this all depends on what is meant by 'checking up'.

    For example if you live apart or long distance, seeing what your partner is doing can just be out of interest, curiosity and even connecting over social media.

    But on the other hand if you are checking in because of worry and not trusting the other person, this is when it can become an issue. And this can be made even worse if you are logging into their account to check things in secret.

    If this is the case, then stopping all the checking in and working through that distrust should be done. :)

    If you're just interested in their social media then this can be harmless, but if you have ulterior motives then this can definitely cause other problems!

    -PositiveAura
  • FeatheredDreamsFeatheredDreams Miniposter Posts: 91 The answer to life, the universe, and everything
    Depends on what checking up is.

    I follow my best friends on all the media i can just beacuse we reference stuff we talk about on media platforms a lot, so someone can say in group chat "you kow x thing?" and i know x thing cus they retweeted it and such.

    Even browsing someones profile isn't necessarily bad, if it's only to find jokes you missed out on or to find a certain post someone did so you can link it to someone else with good motives (sharing good stories).

    But things like searching for comments just to see what people are saying about them/who talks to them, what they like, who else they're talking to, who follows them & who they follow - no, that's invasive, in some cases abusive even, especially if done excessively (more than once every few months) to the point you're stalking them on social media.

    I kind of assume that in a relationship these days, you're gonna be sharing with your partner what you see in social media anyway and having a lot of conversations outside of facebook, twitter etc. (be it text (especially for long distance relationships) or face to face) on subjects you found on social media just so you can talk about it, so checking up on someones profile, to me, isn't necessary.
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  • AzzimanAzziman The Mix convert Community Champion Posts: 1,269 Wise Owl
    Aife wrote: »
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    Hey everyone,

    With social media being so accessible now it's very easy to check up on your partner's social media activity. How healthy is it to check what your partner is up to on social media?

    Look forward to hearing your thoughts!

    - Aife

    Hi all,

    On the one hand, it might be nice to see what your partner is up to. Maybe they've gone to a dinner, and you'd like to know the place so you could see it sometime?

    On the other hand, social media has a habit of making us feel left out. Added to the fact that it can easily become an unhealthy habit of stalking, and there are negatives as well.

    Overall, I think a look every now and then does no harm. It becomes an issue when it becomes a regular habit or obsession!x

    Much love <3
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