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Let us know how the phone calls go. How is Mr Riot being at the moment? Huge hugs *hug* *hug*
I just want this to all be resolved one way or another. So tired of all of this bullshit, it's making me ill.
You shouldn't over think things as its not happened yet. I know this is hard for u to not worry but if u I've wiry its not gonna help u. Your already suffering enough and u don't need it. Try and think more realistic if u can.
Remember were here for u and if u need anyone to talk to then u can talk to us. Please try and not worry if u can. Also arrange that appointment to see the GP as soon as possible. Maybe get an emergency appointment straight away.
Your not on ur own
Hugs x
i know its hard but just remember, you were strong enough to get through that, u r strong enough to get through this
I'm really worried about tomorrow. Knowing the CPS decision isn't going to make how I feel any better on a day to day basis. I'll still have PTSD, I'll still get the nightmares and the flashbacks and the night terrors. I kind of don't want to know and just walk away.
There's nothing I can say to make things any better - I'm so sorry that you were given this news.
*hug* You know where I am if you need anything x
I think I'm going to get it reviewed, it doesn't hurt I guess.
I don't know much about the case, and these aren't questions that I suggest you answer on here, but more something to think about.
If you try and step back from the emotions, is there a reasonable chance of a conviction? Factoring in that a conviction needs a jury to get 'beyond reasonable doubt'. I would guess that with it being so long ago - there's little evidence other than personal statements, and if it comes down to your statement vs his, or possibly yours & your mums vs his then its basically one persons word against another. If that's the case, then chances of getting beyond reasonable doubt are slim.
It might be worth considering drawing a line under the case and getting more therapy options.
You could always get it reviewed but not sure wether that will be any success or not. You got nothing to lose so can try and see. Only if it they say no further action does need to take place then you know that nothing more can happen.
I know you have done everything you needed to do and that's good. I think now you know from them that they cant anything further shows a lot of reasons to why they can't so you gonna think different things. It's good that they got back in touch as you needed to know.
Hopefully you can decide whats best and that's all you can do. Could you ask them to put it in the writing and send it off to you? At least then if anything you got that we evidence.
Crazy Cat x
If you can, it might be worth finding out why they decided that. I'd imagine it is, as you think, evidential issues thanks to the old police force. If there are big evidential issues then they're going to come out at trial, even if the CPS change their mind. Think carefully about whether you want to keep fighting this or whether you want to go back to therapy and draw a line under everything.
I have asked for the CPS to give me more details on their decison anyway
https://www.ipcc.gov.uk/complaints
Go back through them and see what's available. It's going to be around acceptance for you: that's it is ok to be angry and hurt, but to stop that taking over.
Good luck!