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"Am I the best sex you've ever had?" - How honest is too honest?
Danny!
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I was watching this new interactive documentary project called The And last night.
They take 30 couples and give them each a set of questions such as "Am I the best sex you've ever had?", What would you do if I cheated on you?" and "Who has more power in our relationship?".
Have a watch - they ask you four "yes or no" questions, and then make a customised documentary around one and a half minutes long for you. After that, you can flick through other couples and questions.
I really enjoyed watching it, and was struck by the level of honesty that some of the couples had with each other - some of it was quite moving.
It made me wonder though, can you be too honest in a relationship? We always encourage people to communicate openly and honestly, but are there some things that you just don't need to know? Is honesty always a good thing?
Would you want to know your partner's answer to those questions (and others in the documentary)? Would you be comfortable giving full, honest answers to those questions?
They take 30 couples and give them each a set of questions such as "Am I the best sex you've ever had?", What would you do if I cheated on you?" and "Who has more power in our relationship?".
Have a watch - they ask you four "yes or no" questions, and then make a customised documentary around one and a half minutes long for you. After that, you can flick through other couples and questions.
I really enjoyed watching it, and was struck by the level of honesty that some of the couples had with each other - some of it was quite moving.
It made me wonder though, can you be too honest in a relationship? We always encourage people to communicate openly and honestly, but are there some things that you just don't need to know? Is honesty always a good thing?
Would you want to know your partner's answer to those questions (and others in the documentary)? Would you be comfortable giving full, honest answers to those questions?
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If someone poses me a post-coital question if that was the best sex I ever had I would avoid giving an answer, because those questions are bullshit. They solely exist to give your ego a pat on the back if you receive the answer you desire. No, there is not too much honesty, but there are unnecessary questions and superfluous information.
No I don't care if I am the best ever lover for any given partner. I give my best, because giving pleasure equals receiving pleasure, and I am open for suggestions and improvement, but simply knowing if I am the best or not is not helpful for anyone.
Agreed, a little bit in love with this. Would love to see it done with slightly younger couples though...
I have to agree with Helen - this was really really interesting to watch, and would be great to see this with younger couples.
I'm not sure that I would really want that level of honesty - maybe because you're just never know what your partner is going to come out with. Ignorance is the best sometimes!!