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About a thread I can't make
Indrid Cold
Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
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(I couldn't decide where this thread should go, feel free to move it if there's a place it would fit better)
There's something that's been on my mind for a while now, and I'd like to ask people here for their opinions on it. However, there's one person on this forum that I think may be affected negatively by that thought and so I don't want to describe it in case they read it. But it keeps bothering me.
(I can't say exactly why it would affect them for the same reason I can't make the thread. I can say though that it's not because I'd be talking about them.)
I've thought of some things I could maybe do about this dilemma, but nothing seems good enough.
I did ask on another forum, but I don't know the people there at all and they don't know me at all, so I'm not sure how to take their advice, if you see what I mean. I also only got one or two replies, which might mean that there's nothing anyone can say about it...
Adding on the title "Poster X, please don't read this" or sending them a PM saying not to is ridiculous, as it would be an invitation to read it and also might give them the wrong idea, that I'd be talking about them, when I'd only be talking about myself.
Doing something similar to the "triggering" idea would also give the wrong impression, as it's nothing like the things usually associated with that and so would probably turn away a lot of people who could offer advice and would not be affected by what I'd say, while doing nothing to keep out the one person who would be.
I also can't think of any way to say "People who fall in <this> category, please don't read" because that would either be so generic it would apply to everyone or so specific that it would apply to very few people, and so would make it clear who I don't want to read it.
I can't think of any way to get around this, so this thread is basically pointless, but as far as I can tell I've been vague enough that it won't do any harm, so I can at least ask this.
There's something that's been on my mind for a while now, and I'd like to ask people here for their opinions on it. However, there's one person on this forum that I think may be affected negatively by that thought and so I don't want to describe it in case they read it. But it keeps bothering me.
(I can't say exactly why it would affect them for the same reason I can't make the thread. I can say though that it's not because I'd be talking about them.)
I've thought of some things I could maybe do about this dilemma, but nothing seems good enough.
I did ask on another forum, but I don't know the people there at all and they don't know me at all, so I'm not sure how to take their advice, if you see what I mean. I also only got one or two replies, which might mean that there's nothing anyone can say about it...
Adding on the title "Poster X, please don't read this" or sending them a PM saying not to is ridiculous, as it would be an invitation to read it and also might give them the wrong idea, that I'd be talking about them, when I'd only be talking about myself.
Doing something similar to the "triggering" idea would also give the wrong impression, as it's nothing like the things usually associated with that and so would probably turn away a lot of people who could offer advice and would not be affected by what I'd say, while doing nothing to keep out the one person who would be.
I also can't think of any way to say "People who fall in <this> category, please don't read" because that would either be so generic it would apply to everyone or so specific that it would apply to very few people, and so would make it clear who I don't want to read it.
I can't think of any way to get around this, so this thread is basically pointless, but as far as I can tell I've been vague enough that it won't do any harm, so I can at least ask this.
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I've had someone on another website make a thread about me. I read the replies and I was sat there thinking "I'm thinking the same thing too".
It's... a thought I've had. It's very important to me so I want to get some other people's opinions on it, preferably opinions by people who aren't complete strangers.
This thought is about myself, but it could also apply to someone else, who probably hasn't thought the same thing. But while I can take it, I'm afraid they can't.
Better?
The other one however has said things in the past that make it clear their mentality on the subject is far worse than mine. I seriously think that if I ask what I want to and the other sees it, it could end badly.
Having said the above... I think if the other person reads this now, they'll know it's them I'm talking about, and what the topic is. Which is 2 out of 3 things I was trying to avoid by being vague.
Because you're the other person.......???
Seriously though this site isn't around for you not to ask for advice if you need it because of someone else.
No I'm just being nosey :-) but like Starry offering my advice services if required...
In any case, thanks for the advice people. I'll think about it.