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I'm not entirely sure what your point is?
I can't speak for fiend, but I'm certainly not saying that it is as simple as going to a book club is a panacea to all the world's ills.
But the awkward truth here is that, actually, there is a basic formula which generally does work. If you do something that you're passionate about, with a group of people who are like-minded, you will make acquaintances. If you make acquaintances then something more will grow out of some of those relationships. It doesn't really matter what that passion is, whether it's stamp collecting or BDSM, the same basic principle applies.
The issue I've picked up with Tom (used in the third person for clarity not as some sort of nasty personal attack), especially in chat, is that he is always very quick to reply to any suggestions with an angry response as to why something won't work, or why something is a rubbish idea, or why the person making the suggestion just Doesn't Get It and is therefore an idiot.
With such a negative defeatist attitude, it isn't a wonder that things aren't working.
This is pretty harsh Arctic, you're making a lot of assumptions about what Tom's thinking about those offering him their help and advice.
Tom, I've always seen you thank people for their efforts and suggestions when you're looking for new ideas and there's no harm in telling people what you've already tried or why it might not be suitable for you. For example, reading isn't for everyone and there's nothing wrong with that. You've also admitted that you do feel you've got a bit of work to do on yourself - I wonder what sort of things about yourself you'd like to work on?
If you had a defeatist attitude I don't think you'd have posted this thread in the first place and you've battled that feeling of wanting to give up on it all in the past. It can help to hear how other people spend their alone time not only in getting new ideas but realising that other people have a lot of time to kill on their own too and although sometimes it might feel that time is slipping away, spending time on our own can be really valuable too.
I was pleased to hear in chat last night that the new dance class you're doing at the moment is going well
Think about what you are passionate about and do that. You'll be doing something you enjoy and that will show through. That's the way to enjoy things more and not feel so much like you're wasting time. But it is ok to have down time too.
Nobody can argue against that.
This stupid thread reminds me of that family guy episode:
"Jackal, jackal, it's a jackal, jackal!"
"It wasn't right the first time you said it why the hell would it be right the next ten times?"
Tom, don't listen to those idiots, they are obviously trolls. I literally only joined to post this, because this is the first thing that comes up on google search results when you google for ideas of things to do in the evenings!
If you've stumbled here looking for ideas, like I have, don't pay attention to the morons in this forum and go here instead:
http://www.fun-stuff-to-do.com/thing...hen-bored.html
Or here:
http://www.angelfire.com/sc2/DrGary123/105Things.html
Now I bet you're happy that I was bored enough this evening, to register and post that.
This thread is from back in 2013 so I'm going to close it now but feel free to start a shiny new one :thumb:
- Jo7
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