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I got warned by my friends for ages now bout this guy I've been on off with that I was just being used for sex etc and that he was a compulsive liar
Anyway I hadn't been with him since August last year where last wkend he made out he was single and we ended up together . We ended up together when the door was being bashed in it was his gf who punched me 4 times in eye and now I've got a black eye
She phoned me and appologised said he's a compulsive liar and is sick in the head . That he steals and when she had a pregnancy scare he kicked her in stomach
Anyway she's told me he's said I'm ugly made fun oft clothes got a mental problem
That the sex was so bad he had to %&*$# off just to get hard to sleep with me or pretend he was tired so he didn't have to!
But still kept going theee
Anyway I hadn't been with him since August last year where last wkend he made out he was single and we ended up together . We ended up together when the door was being bashed in it was his gf who punched me 4 times in eye and now I've got a black eye
She phoned me and appologised said he's a compulsive liar and is sick in the head . That he steals and when she had a pregnancy scare he kicked her in stomach
Anyway she's told me he's said I'm ugly made fun oft clothes got a mental problem
That the sex was so bad he had to %&*$# off just to get hard to sleep with me or pretend he was tired so he didn't have to!
But still kept going theee
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Just to check, you slept with a guy (who I will call Stan). You've been involved with Stan before, and haven't had anything to do with him for 6 or 7 months. You meet up with Stan again, and he tells you that he's single, and you believe him.
You have sex with Stan, and his girlfriend bursts in and assaults you. Stan's girlfriend (Stanlina) phones you to apologise, and you are told that when Stanlina had a pregnancy scare Stan kicked Stanlina in the stomach. Stanlina also tells you that Stan says you're ugly and have a mental problem, and that the sex is bad?
Pretty much
What he says is no reflection on you at all- it it the talk of a man being caught out cheating and trying any line to smooth it out with his girlfriend. He needs to make you not seem a threat to her.
It is not worth knocking your self confidence. Just ignore them and don't bother returning their calls in the future. If you happen to run into them then just be civil. Then focus on building relationships with other people, who won't be toxic to you.
Erm I'm just noting the fact I've been hit in face
Anyway he's said I'm ugly made fun of my dress sense despite he constantly told me I was beautiful... Said I was that bad in bed he had to wank off just to go with me...yet she is severely overweight, ugly old
He's told everyone I've stalked him yet same breath asking me what I got planned for the eve
What the fuck do you think he's going to say? "Yeah, my bit on the side is skinny and gorgeous and amazing in bed. TOTALLY UNLIKE YOU YOU FAT UGLY BITCH"? Seriously, do you expect that?
If you play around with men who have girlfriends then this is what happens. I would say you should consider it a life lesson learned, but you seem completely and totally incapable of actually learning the lesson.
He made out he was single!! I didn't realise he'd turn into this
He has also told his mates I'm crap too weather or not this is true... But still slept with me
As an aside Stanlina assaulted you, its up to you if you press charges.
With regards to the girlfriend, if she's left you with a black eye then you could consider pressing charges against her for doing that. No matter how angry she is at you for shagging her bloke, that is not appropriate or acceptable.
He really is only saying those things to placate his girlfriend. Would you expect a guy grovelling to you to say 'well she is better in bed, super hot etc, but I still want to be with you', or would you expect him to talk her down to make it seem he loves you more? That is all he is doing. And she has the pleasure of making you feel bad by telling you. Those comments really are not worth taking on board- I promise they don't reflect on you at all.
Thanks I know this really... I don't know what I want just support I guess
Try and use this as a catalyst to change your opinion of this guy now. It is so easy to get drawn back to people sometimes, but you have proof now that he is a liar and not worth the time of day. He has ended up hurting two people in the process. Realise that he is not worth this and hopefully you can move forward, knowing you are strong enough never to fall for anything he says again, should that situation arise.
Hope you are ok and have people you can call up to support you. There is no shame in admitting what happened, so make sure you do tell people and can start to feel better.
I wouldn't b so sure if that!! He has spread horrible things bout me yet still continued to sleep with me
He has spread horrible things about you, yet you have continued to sleep with him.
I didn't realise or find out till after
I kinda knew but didn't want to see it I guess
Yep! Just didn't think someone could b so evil
I will and yep you're right! Kinda upset bout the sex stuff but deep down don't believe it either
Are you seriously saying that your biggest problem with all of this is that he said you were crap in bed? :rolleyes:
Yes cause he seemed to enjoy it at tine