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kids need discipline, not love. Agree?
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Kids who are loved during childhood ends up spoiled, entitled, and generally bratty. It starts with them throwing tantrums at grocery stores bc their parents won't buy them candy. It culminates with 16 y/o's thinking (and demanding) their parents owe them a car just bc they could drive. What happened to the concept of earning your living? Let's face it, parents willingly spend money on children knowing they ain't get nothing in return bc their under-16 children don't work! That's 16 years of them living with parents free of rent, not contributing to family expenses, and thinking they could do w/e they want bc their parents will always love them.
Plus the time parents spend with their kids could be detrimental to their own careers. Not just stay at home moms, but also working parents who give up promotions, taking time off to attend school plays and sporting games, etc. And these 16 years of putting up with brats...that's enough money spent on them to buy a house!
Solution: Discipline your kids! Foster care is good for the character bc if children misbehaves, they are out of that particular home. Don’t ppl get kicked out of school or work for the same reason? But to be practical, a permanent home that disciplines is the 2nd best. Don’t put up with bad behavior. Make kids do 100% of chores after school (from age 5 and on) so parents won’t have anything to worry about when they get home from work. Most of all, withhold love and affection 99% of the time. Don’t talk to your kids unless chore related. Make everything business-like. Your kids will then become productive and competent in the real world.
Plus the time parents spend with their kids could be detrimental to their own careers. Not just stay at home moms, but also working parents who give up promotions, taking time off to attend school plays and sporting games, etc. And these 16 years of putting up with brats...that's enough money spent on them to buy a house!
Solution: Discipline your kids! Foster care is good for the character bc if children misbehaves, they are out of that particular home. Don’t ppl get kicked out of school or work for the same reason? But to be practical, a permanent home that disciplines is the 2nd best. Don’t put up with bad behavior. Make kids do 100% of chores after school (from age 5 and on) so parents won’t have anything to worry about when they get home from work. Most of all, withhold love and affection 99% of the time. Don’t talk to your kids unless chore related. Make everything business-like. Your kids will then become productive and competent in the real world.
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well what you've written is pretty much a load of bullshit. so i thought maybe you worked in childcare and had had a bad day or something.
please don't have children if this is your child rearing method.
well yeah, obviously, you can't just let them run amok. but not discipline INSTEAD of love.
Are you serious? You're saying there is something wrong with this method?
love =/= spending lots of money and giving everything that a child asks for. almost all children are loved, but the majority don't grow up to become 'spoilt, entitled and generally bratty.'
if parents don't want to worry about their children when they get home from work they should just.....not have children.
doing what you say won't make your children productive and competent etc., it'll just fuck them up for life.
What I was going to say, what's wrong with both? Bit taken a-back by your comments OP, extreme.
It's the free ride kids have that bothers me. Like living in parents house w/o paying rent or contributing to groceries, etc. You could actually LOVE your charity cases?
So when you were 4 they sent you down to work in the mines then?
Spare the rod etc... obvs not literally condoning caning, but if you don't punish in some way, they don't learn
I would say you have to thrash your child to stop them turning into a brat, but a lot of brats seem to like that sort of thing.
But I believe the best way to bring up kids is by being attentive to their needs, but also by making sure they have recognised boundaries.
Definitely looking for a reaction. I think the topic overall is fine though, so if people can stick to the topic and avoid responding to the extremity, then there's probably some interesting discussion to be had.
There was an interesting article on obedience in the papers a few weeks ago - not sure if anyone caught it?
My mum never disciplined me..or showed me love, I became a young carer at age of 6..I had to cook, clean and do all the household work, I still acted up in school..I got kicked out of school...because I longed for attention and love and care from someone, and the only way I felt I could get it was by..misbehaving.
children need love...and disciplin..not showing children love affects them in the future..I read an article where not showing children love can affect them in the future mentally, more adults become depressed, alone..and anxious that haven't had love from there parents..then those that have...
Just saying..
Yes we are all literally dead
Where is that article? Sounds interesting.
"Yale law professor, and mother of two girls, Amy Chua gave the world a new type of mother role model in her memoir Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother: someone who insisted on several hours of music practice every day, banned sleepovers and wasn't happy with anything less than an A+ for schoolwork."
Her kids lives sounded nothing like a childhood to me! More here