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After a one nighter
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I had my first night stand and just wondering what happens after event usually? As the guy I went with we stayed in bed watching tv till 2 next day after
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There are no "rules", just go with the flow and see where it takes you!
:yes:
It's not that simple
He told me after he had a gf...
But now they've split up and as bad as it sounds I like him and think I've blown my chance
No one wants to be rebound girl!
Don't even think he'd want to with me anyway as I jumped into bed with him
He jumped in to bed with you as well, remember.
He hasnt spoken to me on fb since event but I haven't bumped into him in work either
It seems like after this one night stand you would like to see him again, especially now that him and his girlfriend broke up. The morning after is understandably scary especially if you like him :yes:
If you are interested in dating him, how about asking him out for a drink? It could insinuate this isn't just about sex- and you do work together so it could also be interpreted as a friendly drink as well. His reaction could be an inkling on what he feels too.
However, as Miss_Riot mentioned, perhaps being "the rebound" may not be ideal - so have a think as to whether his is what you want. Working together is also something to think about in terms of a possible awkward aftermath :banghead:
Good luck and do let us know how you get on!
Yet he was the one who approached me
Only thing I'd add is that having a one night stand with him generally doesn't change anything; you've not ruined your chances or anything like that.
Haven't bumped into him in work but haven't spoke to him on fb either bad sign?!
He had sex with you and now he's not calling a month after the event? It certainly isn't a good sign. If he contacts you after all this time it'll be because he's horny, not because he likes you.
He had a gf when it took place :S
Sent him a message but he didn't reply guess I had my answer
Then he is quite clearly a dickhead. I wouldn't waste your time on him.
Thanks just a shame I bump into him around work
I'll bet he even told you she never gives him sex and is just waiting for the right time to chuck her.
The only consolation is that you've not blown your chances of anything. The guy's a knobhead and was only interested in putting his ding-a-ling in your tra-la-la. Just let your colleagues know he was a bit small
Teehee!
He didn't tell me till after the event and he doesn't work in my office but next door so that wasn't my fault. He wasn't small but did struggle
When I do see him do I say hi
Get over him quickly! There are better guys out there!
Kisses
You'd be best off blanking him. He just wanted to fuck you so ignore him, he's not worth even wasting the oxygen required to say "hi".
I don't care if he was big or small, good or bad, just remember that if he gossips you can get revenge quite easily.
He even said not to post on his wall
guilt about cheating?