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Colleague asking for lifts to work
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So since i've moved to a different location for work, one of the other girls is trying to come over as well (also due to the new manager there).
She has just texted me asking that if, hypothetically, she moved over as well, would I be able to give her lifts in.
Now, this is going to make me sound like a bitch but i really dont want to. I love the drive in and out of work on my own to just chill out, and i dont really the need extra responsibility to get her to work as well. Thing is, I drive right past her road to get there and there isnt a direct bus as the shop is in a retail park, so she would be screwed really.
I feel bad but i dont know what to say to her
She has just texted me asking that if, hypothetically, she moved over as well, would I be able to give her lifts in.
Now, this is going to make me sound like a bitch but i really dont want to. I love the drive in and out of work on my own to just chill out, and i dont really the need extra responsibility to get her to work as well. Thing is, I drive right past her road to get there and there isnt a direct bus as the shop is in a retail park, so she would be screwed really.
I feel bad but i dont know what to say to her
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But you have no valid excuse to other than not wanting to so if you do decide to say no, don't bullshit her....
I guess it all depends whether you are bothered about upsetting her or not....
Apparently our boss is pretty adamant on not letting her transfer over, but you never know. Think i'll just have to be honest and say that its too much responsibility and pressure on me. What if im off ill or late then she cant get it in at all. Also i wont be able to make plans for after work because i have to drop her home first.
I know this isn't the point; but would she offer you money if you did give her lifts? And what would happen if you had different shifts? I go to a club twice a week and sometimes ask someone for a lift home. Because I don't know if either person will be there, I always have an alternative form of transport if I need to. One always says "I will drop you home" and the other will just drop me into town where my bus stop is - both work fine for me.
There is an element of that, but it's understandable.
I've been in that position and it does put pressure on, especially when it comes to annual leave or illness. Just an extra hassle that you can avoid, so why not avoid it?
When I worked at a call centre out in the sticks I was happy to pick people up and give them a lift, but only ever on the understanding that i was doing them a favour and they couldn't and shouldn't rely on me.
Im all for giving people lifts but she wouldnt be able to return the favour and take me to work, and if anything happened she would be stuck at home and it would be my fault, not hers, then the rest of the team would be let down because they'd be short two people. Its bad enough when one person is late. I think it would quickly escalate into her soley relying on me to be her chauffeur and i wouldnt be able to get out of it.
I think you should be straight with her and tell her that you don't want to. If she still wants to transfer then she can take the two buses or work out some kind of compromise with you instead of - from what it seems to me - assuming that you'll ferry her to/from.
You;re right though Franki, i would only take a job if i knew i could get there without soley relying on one person to get me there (assuming there was no public transport)