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Spot on.
I've seen the video and I didn't think there was anything wrong with it. The imagery was relevant to the song and relevant to the artistic direction of the video.
If you're triggered by something you choose to be triggered, you choose to go away and hurt yourself. It isn't nice seeing things that tempt you, it is like offering an alcoholic a double brandy, but the choice remains with you to hurt yourself or not. Pink doesn't make you hurt yourself, you make you hurt yourself.
I don't see how things that might be triggering could all carry warnings, but I am wary of anything that 'glamourises' harmful behaviour. In a similar way to how showing smoking is not acceptable.
people self harm. Sometimes you will see evidence of this. Sometimes it will be upsetting, other times not.
The video was showing how the whole situation came about from childhood, and why she ended up feeling so awful and doing that to herself. It wasnt making it look glamourous or good.
I think it might actually bring some positive awareness to people
It no more glamourises self-harm than the people who display their scars with pride.
I think a warning would have been appropriate but it's a tough one, because IMHO the video wasn't actually that graphic. It was more implied than anything.
This. It smacks of attempted absolving of responsibility.
Shit a fuck: I'm completely in agreement with Arctic Roll and SuzyCreamcheese. I think I need a lie down.
i am teh voice of reason
I'm a young girl, and that's exactly what I did. And I know 2 other girls who did as well.
Don't be daft. There are many reasons why you self-harm and there are many reasons why I self-harm. Some will be the same and some won't. But I don't think any of the reasons are "I saw someone in a shitty pop video do it", just as I didn't take up self-harm because I had a crush on Sooz from As If and she did it.
I hadn't seen the video but I went and looked for it on youtube. It said it was the uncensored version and, other than the woman making porno grimaces and her wrist having a bit of red dye on it, you couldn't really see a great deal. It was enough to explain what she was doing, but it wasn't exactly se7en levels of graphic violence.
The law of averages says you have to be right once in a while
I hadn't self harmed for a few days, which is pretty good for me. I was in a good mood, doing well, no intention of self harming.
Then I watched the video, because I like the song.
Seeing other people self harm or seeing other peoples cuts makes me do it, it is one of the only things that triggers me.
I'd just of appreciated a warning on the video is all.
I was quitting Suzy, as a close friend of mine has cancer, I promised him I would.
I just think it should of come with a warning, like books/films/games do.
Pink is my fave song now, did hate it at first but was like, don't care what other people think I like them, I also like CA song as well, I love the tune x
Quite. I've started labelling anything 'triggering' if I think that generally people who are feeling shit might not enjoy reading it. I wish there was a better word for that than 'triggering' precisely because of the sort of blame that seems to imply (see SCC and AR above), because it makes me wonder if I should post at all.
yeah i think that is my issue with it, it does imply a responsability which cannot really exist. particularly on a messageboard like this where some of the posts can be emotionally heartwrenching to read. i can think of a few posts which have made me well up a bit and think about things that have happened in the past but in no way would i blame the poster for 'triggering' me into feeling that way. i dont mean to sound harsh but the responsability lies with the individual. a post can trigger emotions (like any post can), but it definitely cant trigger you to actually do the deed and self harm.
Really interesting to hear varied views on this, good rant topic potentially - if someone feels strongly enough to write something then please drop me a PM!