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"your not interested in me"
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Right i'll keep this brief as possible. The girl of my desires has just text me saying "was going to see if you wanted to see me but your not interested". I've been seeing her, but not in a relationship yet and still interested. This online only friend says i need to try and "play the game", but he isn't online atm to help. She asked me wuup2 today and i told her i was doing chores at home, and she said she was going shopping. I text her saying what did you shop for later today and thats when she said that im not interested in her.
She has said these things to me before, and i dont want to walk down the beaten path, i understand she might be trying to feel desirable and get control over me but how do i respond? I so far have text her back twice to no reply so far 1. what did you have in mind? xx" and 2. I have no plans for tonight wuup2? X"
I dont want to push it, but advice would be very much appreciated, arghhh...
She has said these things to me before, and i dont want to walk down the beaten path, i understand she might be trying to feel desirable and get control over me but how do i respond? I so far have text her back twice to no reply so far 1. what did you have in mind? xx" and 2. I have no plans for tonight wuup2? X"
I dont want to push it, but advice would be very much appreciated, arghhh...
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"What he said"
Strikes me she is just so unsure as to what she wants, and it isn't up to you to convince her.....she has to decide for herself.
Just say "look, i want you, let me know when you've sorted yourself out" and leave it be.
fuck playing games
If only everybody did that!
A LOT of girls will like you to give them lots of attention and make them feel wanted rather than playing games to treat them mean and keep them keen etc.
If someone was doing games like that with me, i wouldnt stay interested for long either.
It might be too late now
Whether she used to be or not is anyones guess, but she sure aint now
People on here are too reluctant to hand out a harsh truth in favour of protecting someones feelings.
Give her space! If she doesn't reply after one text, she's not going to after five!
"The game" is an invention to get money out of those with no success and self-confidence. Some girls abide by the rules and only are available if you "play" with them, but quite frankly, they are not worth it, ever.
It doesn't matter, if she honestly does not know if you are interested, or if she is fishing for compliments or baiting you to make a step forward, in any case (like suzy said) make clear to her that you are indeed very interested in her and would like to hear back from her, if she wants to deepen the relationship with you too.
Playing games achieve nothing (in the best case!) and create uncertainties and insecurities at worst. I wouldn't go through with this grabbing ass shite. Straight forward and unmistakably, and then the ball is in her court.
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Again what suzy said. She doesn't sound interested. Either that, or she is just VERY shy and awkward (which I would not assume if she comes sitting on your lap). I think she acts mean and inappropriate towards you, but as a guy who doesn't go off with a "maybe" but only with a "yes" or "no", I would advice you to meet her and ask her directly, face to face. Yea, wear a diaper if you must, but give her one last ultimatum and go through with it: Meet her, tell her you would like this to develop and that you are very interested in her, but you don't know anything definite from her. So tell her to give you a Yes or a No, so you know what you are dealing with.
Any decent looking girl can get lots of attention without any effort. She might like the attention and feeling desired pleases her vanity but the psychophants and blubbering sops are quickly cast to the side when the arsehole/jerk/loser gets her feathers ruffled.
If he played the game right you'd be interested to the point of obsession for as long as he desired.
Been there & done it many times.
:cool:
Excuse me?
Thankyou, serf.
*throws you a tuppence*
My sister's would gobble you up - I'll bring your mother's once I've finished with her :cool:
I'm sure we can come to some sort of agreement. One of your squaws is rather attractive...
...and gets ignored.
Side note: You're getting predictable, brah.