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How many children should other people have?
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some people seem to have pretty strong views on it. From things like "It's weird to not have any kids" to "It's cruel to just have one as only children grow up lonely" and even "they shouldn't be allowed to have that many children, the state should sterilise them". I really don't care how many children other people have, just interested what you all think?
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personally, i want 3 or 4 babies i can't have any until me and my bloke buy a bigger house in 3/4 years time though. booooo i am very broody lately and would love to have one now!
I think that had more to do with having 8 at a time and the ethical issues with the doctor who, not only implanted her with a dozen embroys, but didn't take into consideration her state of mind.
It seems the tv around here is fascinated with huge families... shows about some woman who had 6 at a time, another about a family with 19 children and who knows what else is out there. And some people can't get enough of reality tv so when your life is saturated with stories about huge families, you're bound to hear nutty stories about peoples opinions in the news... luckily the only opinions I hear in real conversations is about how they should just take that crap off the air.
As for how many people should have? I'm in the I want none catagory because I'd be just a shitty parent Though I wouldn't want one either because the boyfriend is an only child and he is so fucking spoiled it makes me sick... even at 33 he is still. I also wouldn't want more than 3, unless I moved to an Amish community... which I totally would. I love the Amish... except in the winter because I'd get cold with no central heating... but for the number other people should have, I just don't care because I don't have to deal with them. As long as the parents love them, because you hear too often of parents abusing or killing their children, and that is sad.
I get fascinated my real life shows like that, about 'weird' things like people with LOADS of children. Still don't care though.
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And that includes afford them.
As long as someone has enough time and love and money to support a kid who should dictate how many they can have?
Personally I think three is enough though but that's more a personal experience and energy level thing
This :yes:
Katie
i would have said 'i dont mind' but imo it isn't for me to say 'i dont mind'.
personally, one :P depending on the pain..then maybe 2. no more than two!
her youngest passed away 20 years ago aged just 15 years old
RJ has 2 sons, and 3 granddaughters
TP has 2 sons, 2 daughters and a grandchild on the way
WJ has 3 daughters, 1 son and a new baby on the way
EH has 3 daughters and 1 granddaughter
AM has 2 sons, a daughter and a grandson on the way
MA (my mum) has a daughter and 3 sons, (stillborn daughter 17years ago)
AP has no children
my granda's sister has 12 children lol
i personally think that it's the parents choice to have as many children as they want too.
we don't all agree on shit, tell us what you REALLY think.
does that mean youre planning on not having kids?
I'm giving serious thought to a vasectomy and I haven't sired any children.
I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. However in my position at the moment, I think it is an act of pure unadulterated selfishness to have children when there are so many out there just crying out for a home and someone to love them.
I may feel different in time, I may not. This is how I feel now.
I can see your point but I think there will always be many out there without a home whether you decide to spread your seed or not. I don't see procreation as selfish at all, to me it's a natural instinct. But I am looking forward to you becoming the next Angelina Jolie
and CptCoatHanger..for god's sake.. NO :razz:
I dont think its either right or wrong, but i feel sorry for people who get old and have never had a family. Must be a very lonely old age and kind of a waste
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Yeah, it's no joke to adopt. It takes ages, requires people to tick a lot of boxes and shell out a lot of money.
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I must confess that a few years ago I was all for people opting not to have kids because the planet was overpopulated. I was going to go down that route. I still think the "we must have a lot of kids to support the elderly" logic is somewhat flawed.
However I got older and met a bloke who has a kid and something inside me eventually cracked. Personally I now think that life without kids will get immensely monotonous eventually.
I don't care so much how many children other people have as long as the children will be cared for properly.