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do men mess with your head deliberately???
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or is it just mine they like to fuck up?? :mad:
since me+my bf split up nearly 4 weeks ago, quite a few people that are either my friends, or his, have been coming onto me, often when drunk :impissed: And im just like - HELLO??? i dont want/need a relationship right now, and you are not the kind of people i want to get involved with!!!
What makes them think they can do this? i was well drunk the other night+to me, thats just people who should respect me as they know me, taking the piss :crying:
ARGH!!!! this is so hard
-rant over-
since me+my bf split up nearly 4 weeks ago, quite a few people that are either my friends, or his, have been coming onto me, often when drunk :impissed: And im just like - HELLO??? i dont want/need a relationship right now, and you are not the kind of people i want to get involved with!!!
What makes them think they can do this? i was well drunk the other night+to me, thats just people who should respect me as they know me, taking the piss :crying:
ARGH!!!! this is so hard
-rant over-
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only as much as women mess with mens.
Uh-huh I agree. Obviously I feel for you, but I've always had a hatred of this sexist attitude that it's only men who play women around and never the other way round...
It's okay. I'm not pretending to be whiter than white. I've messed around enough girls in my time, but i've been messed around by enough girls to - it all even's itself out, nobody's perfect. I know how you feel though. I think it's obvious your still upset about your ex, so it's easy for you to get upset by other guys at the moment. It'll get better with time...
No we DONT mess with your heads. I think when "we" are drunk we do stupid things.
I think you need to look at these so called "friends" as its not friendly to come onto a girl that is clearly not happy about blokes and b/f's etc.
Maybe you were sending out the wrong signals? Maybe you having fun makes them think you are ready to date people? Hmmm, im not 100% sure.
Id probably just expect that a fit girl (which im sure you are) you will get noticed...especially being singal now.
sorry for my posts being so unclear. and also, im not trying to say all men are like this (although, looking back, i know it may seem like it) sorry
no need to be sorry, when people are mad, you get confused in the head with all those thoughts going through. This is why you probably have trouble making clear and concise posts.
Hope everything works out hun.
But in this case it doesn't sound like it, they probably do - shock, horror - genuinely like you. Or else they've got it in mind it'll be easy to get their leg over because you're rebounding. The drink never helps in these situations either, even I've been known to turn into a raging pervert after a few too many
From the sounds of things, you sound nice enough so shouldnt have any problems finding a nice guy
briggi - i dont think 1 of the guys likes me, since he couldnt remember saying it+apologised for it
phoenix - i know it applies for me aswell....but thought it was more for them since they're his mates
I wouldn't be too worried about all this new unwanted male attention. Quite often blokes fancy their mates girlfriends, but obviously when the relationship is intact it's a big no no (or at least it bloody should be!!).
Perhaps there's an element of 'forbidden fruit' here. Before, you were effectively off-limits and now you are back on the market so to speak.
Either way, don't take it too seriously - just politely knock them back if you're not interested.
Anyway, there is an unwritten rule about this kinda thing. Obviously though it depends on a few things. How much you like the girl, how good friends you were with the bloke, and how long they were going out for. I wouldn't randomly pull a friends ex, but if I really liked her, then I probably wouldn't be too put off by her being a friends ex, unless it was one of my best friends. If I did really like a girl, then I'd say lifes too short to be pussyfooting around someone you probably won't be friends with in a few years. But then I wouldn't risk one of my best friends for a bit of between the sheets fun with a girl I thought was hot.
If they're just hoping to catch you on the rebound or something, then they clearly don't give a shit about their friend. If they genuinely like you, then they just clearly don't have a clue about how to get in with a girl who's split up with her boyfriend (and just a quick clue, it's not by sleazing over her, or constantly 'being there' to comfort her).
Erm, doesn't seem like she's messing with your head. Seems like she just doesn't see you as boyfriend material. You can't force someone to be attracted to you. And as MattLiverpool would probably tell you, by constantly begging for a date, you're giving her all the power by coming across all needy and desperate...
To be fair it aint here that's 'screwing your head up' it's yourself.
:yes: I also agree with Skive.