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Urgent advice re potential f-buddy
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Ok guys, I need some serious advice from people I don't know!
I like this guy, he likes me but he's made it clear he's not able to commit to a relationship with anyone but he wouldn't be averse to us sleeping together. I really, really want to because I fancy him like crazy but I'm worried about my own feelings. I really like him and I would want a relationship and I'm terrified that I would get myself into this hoping that I would be able to change his mind and then end up hurt.
What do you guys think??
GB xx
I like this guy, he likes me but he's made it clear he's not able to commit to a relationship with anyone but he wouldn't be averse to us sleeping together. I really, really want to because I fancy him like crazy but I'm worried about my own feelings. I really like him and I would want a relationship and I'm terrified that I would get myself into this hoping that I would be able to change his mind and then end up hurt.
What do you guys think??
GB xx
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Yea, it's the opposite of what your libido tells you, so do what you think is right, but I am pretty sure you won't like it, if he doesn't change his mind, which I think he won't.
It sounds like you wont be able to cope with it very as you've come on here to ask for advice. I wouldnt if i were you
GB xx
But in this case, I don´t think he will change his mind, and perhaps you want to be with him just in case he decides to change and be in a real relationship with you.
But if you want to try, give him time for a chance to reconsider his thought.
I really would try and avoid it
GB x
So either "go with the flow", have your quick fix and probably regret it later, or have the foresight and relinquish something for the greater good.
Very true and I'm feeling it already. I'm desperate for him to text him and I'm in danger of becoming a text stalker myself!!
Best cure is to take your mind off it by distraction. Study, cook, tidy your flat etc all works. Best is still meeting other people however. A friend, your family, stuff like that.
Do yourself a favour and try to find someone who wants you as much as you want them.
Saying that, sometimes it is worth doing something even if you know it will end badly. Just as you don't look back and wonder.
Only you can make this decision.
^^ i know exactly how you feel as i was in this situation a few months back..
i would advise you to do watever feels right to you, follow your heart it's the best way
A nice saying, unfortunately your "heart" speaks on behalf of your desires, not least your libido. And it can fuck you really over, because afterwards it just says, (best imagined in the voice of a 17 year old uneducated half-wit bleached hair bird) "oops lol, well I wanted like a relationship, marriage and kids, but he just used us as a mastubatory aid... Soz. Oh well, I keep aching now for a few weeks or months, but listen to me next time, because I will advice you the same crap again rofl, no hard feelings xoxoxoxo - sincerely your heart."
And the brain says, best imagined as StrubbleS, but with a long white confucius beard and long white sideburns and very small, rotund spectacles, in tailor seat, with an old wooden pipe in his mouth, "Oh well, I told ya. *puffs a bit of white smoke* It's best to think these things through logically, because you know it will hurt like a bitch if you give in to your desires and wishes and not have them answered."
but yea, quotes from facebook groups to make little girls feel understood ("follow your heart.") might be your best bet!
GB xx