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I've been going through a rough patch lately.
About 5-6 months ago it got to much and I went to see my GP,She refaired me to a Counsiler. It took about 2 months for the refairel to go through. During this time I started cutting myself and have been having suicide thoughts.
My friends tend to use me as a shoulder to cry on and turn to me for advice or help, i feel like they ignore or forget how i'm feeling
I am confussed about what is happeneing and feel like i can't talk to my friends or family.
it's really upsetting me:(
Please help.
About 5-6 months ago it got to much and I went to see my GP,She refaired me to a Counsiler. It took about 2 months for the refairel to go through. During this time I started cutting myself and have been having suicide thoughts.
My friends tend to use me as a shoulder to cry on and turn to me for advice or help, i feel like they ignore or forget how i'm feeling
I am confussed about what is happeneing and feel like i can't talk to my friends or family.
it's really upsetting me:(
Please help.
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Well if you want.
Well cutting yourself isn't a good sign.
Have you actually seen this Counsiler yet.
Yeah but at least you can reacognise there is a problem before it has gotten to bad.
I no that cutting my self isn't a good sign but it makes me feel better for about a minute and then i feel even worse cause of what i've done. It's as if it has become part of my life, i need to help but i don't no why.
Any Help?
The best help I can offer is to talk about it as much as possible to someone you would trust with your life.
Also try and find another method that could help you with the feelings and emotions that make you cut. I know it is easier said than done.
Hope it helps.
If you want me to give you more personal advice Private mail me.
I know it is not easy.
My school is understanding about problems and my Head of year and learning mentor said i can go and talk to them anytime.
I'm going to try and talk to some off my friends tomorrow if i can face school.
Thanks for all the advice, and i'll private mail you if thats okay
They are just used to what they know.
Chat to you on PM.
Councilling sounds good though.
good luck with it all you :P
your mum has reacted in the only way she knows how, our mums worry about us and they don't know how to cope with us being upset. imagine if it was your child who was cutting themselves and feeling suicidal, it would be awful to know they were hurting. maybe you could talk things through with your mum and tell her what you need from her, whether it's time to talk, space or time to see films and go shopping together to make things a bit less painful for a little while. she doesn't know what to do hon, she doesn't mean to upset or embarass you.
take care my love, and please let people in to help you.
My mum doesn't actually no i'm self-harming or having sucide thoughts and i don't no how to tell her. i can't imagin how she feel's cause she blames it on herself, and i don't no what to say.
ally x
That is the simplest way.
Don't try and hide things from the person.
If your going to talk to them. Then do it good and propper.
agreed
I'm going to try and have the guts to tell someone tomorrow.
Thanks x
Well done for taking this first step. Hopefully all of this really good advice has given you the confidence to talk to your friends at school today. As omg hi and Cool2play22 say, they might not know what to say at first but these people know and love you, they will definitely care. I'm sure the people who are confiding in you would be very concerned to know that you're feeling like this and not saying anything about it.
I just wanted to say if you don't manage to speak to friends and don't fancy talking to the Head of year, there are phonelines set up exactly for this purpose. Someone at Sane or Samaritans will be happy to listen until you get to talk to a professional face to face.
Please keep posting with any details of your circumstances that you'd like to share with us, and let us know how today goes. I hope you start to feel better soon.
Today was horrible:( ,
i managed to talk to my friends, but i never actually opened up and told them about me self-harming and having all these suicide thoughts. All day i kept telling myself to go and see my Head Of Year but i couldn't bring my self to go, half of doesn't want to go cause i'm affrid of what they will think off me and the other half whats to go so i can stop all of this, i'm really confused and need help
If things don't get better i might speak to someone at the samaritans and see if they can help.
you said your mum knows you are having problems, so to be honest she is going to have a fair idea of what's going on. she would also probably really appreciate you telling her about things than her finding out for herself. my mum found out about me self-harming by walking in on me do it, that was one of the worst moments of my life. if you feel ready to tell her then i'm sure she would be grateful for your honesty. just do what you think is best when you feel you are ready.
Ally you can do it.
I know it takes a lot of courage and strength.
But I found I have a new found strength since I told m y mum and I am dure your Head of year will understand. Becasue your not the first and you wont be the last person to tell a teacher that they self-harm.
You can do it.
I believe in you.
Good luck.
I'll Keep You Posted xx
I put it off for 3 years and it never ever got easier.
So you can do it.
I will be thinking of you.
Hiya Everyone,
Thought I'd Tell You That I Had The Guts Today To Tell My Head Of Year That I Have Been Self-Harming And Having Suicide Thoughts.
She Phoned My Mum And Told Her And Now I Feel Like The've Wraped Me Up In Bubble Wrap,There Keeping Me Out Of My Lessons And Making Me Sit On My Own In A Quiet Room That Not Helpping =/ , I Had To Go The Doctors And Now I'm On Anti-Depressants.
Tbh I Feel Like I've Made Things Worse Cause My Mum Hasn't Even Spoken To Me Since I've Come Home, She Never Ever Came The Doctors With Me =( Now I'm Hiding Away In My Room And Trying To Avoied Everyone And Can't Cut My Self Cause I She Moved Every Sharp Item Away From Me
When my school found out the didn't tell my mum but they did keep me out of lessons.
And it doesn't help being put on your own.
But it will get easier from now on.
It will.
:thumb:
Sitting In A Room On My Own Is Really Depressing, And These Anti-Depressents Are For 18Year Olds, It Say On The Box If Your Under 18 They Make You Have Icrease Suicide Thought And Attemps, So Thats Pointless.
Just think how you would feel if your daughter or son had told you that.
Trust me in time it will get better it did for me and I was saying exactly the same as you are now.
Trust me.
I know how it feels to have your mum lash out against your self-harm problem, mine still doesn't like me to talk about it, and she thinks I haven't done it in years. BUT you need to realise that she doesn't understand what you're doing at all. Right now she is hurting because her baby would rather hurt herself than speak to her mum. Try and put yourself in her position. I think she is less angry and more scared and upset - it's just coming out as anger because she's in shock.
I think you should ask to speak to her one-on-one and ask that she let you talk and so you can explain how you're feeling to her. She needs to understand how you're feeling, and shutting yourself away from her will just make her feel like you don't care about her feelings. I'm not saying her feelings are more important than yours, but you spoke to the people at school because you wanted help, and your mum can help you.
Yes, what she said was unfair, but it is understandable if you look at it from her point of view. What would you do if your daughter's school called you up out of the blue to tell you that she's harming herself? That your child would rather speak to them than her own mother? That's how it looks to her.