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Why does he criticise you? What about?
I've been with the hubby for over three years, im currently fat, lazy, pregnant, always scruffy and a lot of the time stink of baby puke and he still manages to get compliments in a several times a day. And if he does make any insensitive comments, 95% of the time he's joking and i know that, but if i get upset he's always quick to genuinely apologise and give me a cuddle.
As for him, i tend to compliment him quite often be it something physical or something he's done...especially when he's done something thoughtful or nice.
Fuck thats bad.
I'm shit at giving and taking compliments, maybe he is just crap at giving them? Its to do with some insecurity or some Freudian bollocks like that.
I know sometimes I dont actually say anything complimentary but quite often I'm thinking it. I know the whole point is to say it out loud, but dont write him off, he may not say it, doesn't mean he isn't thinking it.
At the end of the day though, tell him how you feel, he should make more of an effort. Its not asking a lot.
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As Knee High Stripey Socks said, sometimes it's just about the way they look at you, and you know that they find you attractive.
I have some kind of bdd thing going on, so when I first got into my current relationship I was so desperate to hear him tell me I was pretty all the time and I was firing waaay too many compliments at him. Two and a half years down the line and I think we've got the balance right - compliments when they're not needed (ie, when I'm in my PJs) and secret glances in a crowded room that speak a thousand words. So yeah, I think balance is key.
Also, my bf still forgets my DOB but I deal with it! He is only male, afterall...
I do get where you're coming from, and I think you're right in saying that maybe he just doesn't say it/think about saying it even if he thinks it.
Have you tried telling him how you feel? Maybe he just doesn't realise, and when he doesn't he'll make his feelings more vocal.
This. Absolutely this. When you catch them looking at you and they give you a funny little smile. Or drunken "I love you" texts at 3am because they didn't want to wake you up by calling you.
Although nothing says, "I love you" more than helping you clean yourself up after you've had sex thinking your (godawfully long) period had stopped and it turned out it really hadn't, even when you got blood all over them.
I'm glad that you know exactly what I mean and that you have someone that makes you feel the same way!
But that second point. Oh My God, it couldn't be more true!!
No worries, that's what we're here for!
Hope it goes well! x
I wouldn't worry too much about stuff like this. Most men don't pay attention to most stuff. My husband never knows how old I am. But then most of the time he doesn't know how old HE is, so I don't let it bother me much. He sometimes even calls me by his ex's name when he's cross with me, but I'm actually ok with that too (beats him doing it in bed!).
But if he ever stopped telling me I look pretty when I've just crawled out of bed with Sideshow Bob hair and mole eyes knowing for absolutely fact that I look like crap, I'd be very worried about the state of our relationship.
It's about sorting out what's important from what's not, and imo, little silly compliments are really important.
I'm a firm believer in just coming out and saying it!
It is very important to communicate with your partner no matter what the issue is; communicating as a couple will hopefully give you an insight on how you can approach the subject with him, and talk with him when he is serious! Good luck!