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A) Attractive enough to catch my eye. Got to find her interesting and be able to make me grin, and of course she's got to be willing.
Same as A pretty much except that the "finding her intresting" becomes more imnportant. I can't just just keep fucking a bird I have trouble talking too. We have to be able to have a laugh.
C) Same as A and B plus honesty/trust/loyalty.
I think the difference is they mentioned it once each. You did prattle on about it a fair bit. No point provoking yet another argument, chap.
Exaclty. Tinkler stop bringinbg this thread back round to the same old shit you've harping on about since you got here.
Monety is a factor for a lot of people, it has to be for any sort of comfortable life but it's not the be all and end all of a relationship. Nobody's baging on about it quite as much as you.
Also noticed how arrogance hasn't cropped up once.
Being financially secure is a semi-important factor in my relationships (I don't have flings or one night stands), I would never say that it was a necessary factor. I am fortunate enough that my OH has a very good job which pays well but I would still love him even if he didn't. He knows that I'm going to be going into a job which will never pay amazingly well but he doesn't care.
Anyway, on topic, important points for me are looks, appearance (i.e. if they look after their appearance rather than just not bothering) and hygiene, how easily I can talk to them (like, with Rich, even when I first started talking to him I found him really easy to open up to), how accepting they are of my little issues, whether my family gets on with them, if they are confident but not over-confident. Probably other things, I am quite picky, but it doesn't matter 'cause I have my perfect man already ;o.
b) a fling / casual / short-term relationship, and
c) a long-term / serious relationship,
a) How pissed we both are... lol
b) Looks... some common ground.
c) B criteria and then... Not too clingy, Honesty and trust.
I don't think I ask for much but struggle to get to even B lol
*excluding student loans from the SLC because most of us have those and they're manageable.
Let's also consider another aspect of the money issue - gender. Men are raised by society to be protectors and providers. This is still true to a debatable extent today. I've gone out previously with someone who earned over twice as much as I do, and it caused no problems. Yet it's entirely possible I could meet a woman who earns a six-figure salary and not want a relationship with her. Is it the fact she earns so much more that would bother me?
Not in itself. If it means that a skinflint like me gets to keep more of his own money, I view that as a plus. No, it's the different lifestyles that would cause the problem. The fact she had a bank balance that was so much larger than mine wouldn't bother me remotely. But if she wanted to go on around five or six holidays a year to a villa in Spain, for instance, I'd recoil in horror. That sort of lifestyle simply doesn't interest me. If she wants to enjoy her own money, the money that she has worked hard to earn, fair enough. She's more than welcome to. But don't drag others along to something they don't want to do!
However, I suspect a lot of men would be very uneasy going out with a woman who earns considerably more than them.
To be fair, I don't think he has said that at all. He's hardly overpaid at £30k either...!
The rest of your post is valid. Some good points which will certainly be relevant to some people.
HAHahahaha - you know, that has actually happened to me. Thankfully I figured it out when I got back to 'hers' and lighting conditions had improved (and the drug induced haze had cleared a little).
I went to sleep. My mate (we thought we were on for a threesome) didn't quite figure it out until it had gone waaaaaaaay past where he was comfortable with...! It took a month for him to see the funny side.
It's one of my favourite stories to tell people as it goes on quite some time and involves a bondage room...! Just quality. I love random nonsense like that. Just always worth a tale or two.
for a short term- the above, less maybe the rock fan, thats not essential, plus, a nice cock, and a good conversationalist
long term- its the eyes i fall in love with....have to share some interests, they have to be able to give good cuddles, have some prospects i.e. be a student that wants to do something with their life or in work...i'm not dating unemployables any more! they have to be very supportive, and be ok with dealing with emotions, they have to be a foodie. I couldn't go out with someone that doesn't apreciate good food, Open minded- sexualy, spiritualy, politically, etc. someone that i would be happy watching me read the observer on a sunday, whlist listening in on either a politics show/some random 6 music stuff/radio 3 in PJs with egg yolk down half the top, and for them to still think i was beautiful both inside and out.
the trouble is i know who that person is....
Some senior doctors do. Not all. And excluding GPs, the majority of those doctors still do things like night duties etc. And it takes years before the salary takes a jump at consultancy - which not all doctors will achieve. A year 4 registrar (in London) *might* be on around £36k. My friends who have just qualified will start on £24k if they're in London, £21k if they're outside. Taking into account 6 years of training, including A levels, 'skills development' and debts around 30-40k. Oh, and the removal of free accomodation in hospitals, effectively a £4-5k pay cut. A relative of mine has just taken a job in the city. His starting salary is £40k, perks and bonuses not included.
It's by no means a career where you can't pay your way and have enough disposable income to have some fun, but it's by no means anywhere near the 'highest paying job', not unless you're doing private practice as a transplant doc or orthopod.
*YAWN*
You are seriously boring mate. Almost every thread you make, you bring back round to the subject of money and your job and your friends jobs.
To be honest, some of the regulars here are just as bad by bringing it up in whatever thread he makes.
Although I admit he could certainly contribute to killing the subject by just not rising to the bait everytime it's put in front of him.
Anyway for anyone who cares re my "shame about the face" thread, she's definitely going to go. Just met up with an ex who I realised I'm still totally into, and genuinely wholly "fancy" rather than current girl I'm not so sure about. Broke up with ex because even though I liked her she wasn't someone deemed pretty by peers, not someone I could have as arm candy / accompanyment to client socials, but looking back I don't care less about any of that, it means nothing compared to how happy she could now make me as she's so adorable (not good-looking in a conventional sense but I'm really into her), I want her back.
What makes anyone think that A-Levels and degrees are always the best indicator of intelligence or ability? Not everyone is academically minded, and long may that be so!