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This may sound really really stupid, but I have been with my guy for about 6 months, and gradually he is coming out of his shell more and more. We had a chat about sex recently and I tried to get him to open up to me about his fantasies, he said he was happy for me to do what ever I wanted to him.
My previous partner was really into anal sex and I did enjoy it and I would like to give it a go with my new bloke, however despite huge dropping of hints he doesnt ever mention it.
I have tried buying massage/lubrication and then stroking his bum with my finger when I go down on him and licking it too which he really gets off on, but even though he admits he loves it, he hasnt tried it with me which would be kind of the way I would have approached having anal sex.
So, without actually saying "I'm going to bend over and I want you to fuck me up my arse" what on earth do you think I can do to bring the idea to his attention.
My previous partner was really into anal sex and I did enjoy it and I would like to give it a go with my new bloke, however despite huge dropping of hints he doesnt ever mention it.
I have tried buying massage/lubrication and then stroking his bum with my finger when I go down on him and licking it too which he really gets off on, but even though he admits he loves it, he hasnt tried it with me which would be kind of the way I would have approached having anal sex.
So, without actually saying "I'm going to bend over and I want you to fuck me up my arse" what on earth do you think I can do to bring the idea to his attention.
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I would rather lead him to doing it or suggest it when I know hes more likely to be into it, but so far its not going so well.
From this perspective having to tell your partner specifically what you want them to do sexually can kind of kill the moment. For this reason- it can be best to get the talking in before the action starts. It sounds like you've been on the right track, but may be what you're looking for is for your partner to specifically say what he likes sexually. Up to now it sounds like he's not been that specific- "he said he was happy for me to do what ever I wanted to him".
In time, if you stay on this track of showing your partner you're interested in him, he's more likely to start giving you more specifics about what he likes sexually. As this happens you might find it easier to and get a clearer idea that he's more receptive to hearing what you like sexually. As you build this confidence and understanding it'll get easier to say exactly what you and they want- and address each others thoughts and feelings on these things at the same time.
For more info on anal sex and potential concerns your partner may have- check out this article on TheSite.org. It's also worth checking out this one on getting lubed up and this one on communicating as a couple.
Blokes don't do subtle...
Drop a final even more obvious hint like buying Analeaze or something similar, if not then just go along with the "Fuck my arse!" demand.
If something goes wrong hahaha, well you are seriously fu** up for life.
Could I ask how? I'm interested, since I've always considered playing hopscotch on a motorway more likely to fu** you up for life when something goes wrong.
Actually it was my past girlfriends that brought it up to me and i was more than willing to try anal. Now I love anal.:D
More than likely he'd been fisted then.
Who out of the other 42 people who clicked that link thought they were gonna get some good anal porn and are now all disappointed, or is it just me?
:yes: I saved it specially till I was home from work as well.
brilliant
size of a fist, probably explains what was in it
just tell him striaght off i say whilst your having sex or watching porn or something
learn from this ladies
Don't see why you shouldn't be. It'd not dangerous, worst that can happen is that you don't like it.
If you're worried about it sit on top of him. You can control the penetration yourself then, so if it starts to hurt too much you can stop and rest. Take it slowly and use plenty of lube and you should be fine.