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Just the other day, I was saying how much I missed my OH. He's about 260 miles away and over the weekend/monday, I missed him like crazy..
And now I don't? I just feel bored. It's only been 4 months, and I'm bored already.
This utter sillyness...
And why such extreme feelings? One minute I'm madly in love, the next, I'm bored. It's silly.
And now I don't? I just feel bored. It's only been 4 months, and I'm bored already.
This utter sillyness...
And why such extreme feelings? One minute I'm madly in love, the next, I'm bored. It's silly.
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Do you feel like you're stuck in a routine already?
I'd imagine the distance would be a bitch though. If it was me then I'd send her a bunch of flowers or write her a random love letter as a surprise, just cause it's something different to do.
bri please marry me
are you bored when you're with him? or just bored when he's away?
See how you feel when you see him again, and I would put money on you being crazy about him when you do!
I think it's natural to have up and down feelings. I'm exactly the same. Sometimes I feel really close to my bf and lucky to have him, and then the next time I see him he might annoy me.
If the negative feelings outweigh the positive ones, you need to have a look at the relationship.
Your own feelings affect the way you feel about others, so if you're tired, you might feel grouchy and bored.
Don't throw something good away just because you're bored sometimes
I guess you're right. Nothing is more fun then the 'honeymoon' period of butterflies when they contact you, send silly little texts etc.
I definitely think this is the case, when I'm with him, things couldn't get better, but whilst I'm here, it's easy to want something fun right at that moment.
Bunnie, you perfectly summed up how I felt yesterday. We're reunited in weeks time, and as much as my bad mood wanted me to ignore it, I had a minute feeling of excitement!!
I don't believe I ever said I thought 4 months WAS a long time?
katchika, thanks for your post. I am glad I am not alone. I feel the same way as you - maybe its just human nature? The negative feelings DEFINITELY don't outweigh the positives, in fact, the negatives happen quite rarely, I guess I just posted in a bad time!
I shan't be throwing away anything, anytime soon!!
But why should she not feel confused because it has only been 4 months?
I personally think 4 months is a substantial amount of time, and as Bri said is when you pretty much know anything you should about a partner.
Curvy Lass, I did it for a year, so I know how you feel and how hard it can be, so PM me any time
If the positives outweigh the negatives then you will be fine, but you wouldn't be human if you didn't sometimes wonder if it was worth it. You wouldn't be human if you didn't sometimes think that there might be something better closer to home.
there were also times when it was hard, but the good times should outweigh the bad, if its still not right when you are together, maybe its time to think again.
worth it all now tho as we're living together and everything is fine and dandy!
good luck!