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Teacher and student!!!
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Ok, this may sound weird....basically, there is this man, he used to be my teacher at college, we have all left now. He is so gorgeous, all the girls fancied him including me but I never thought anymore of it because he was my teacher. We had a night out for us leaving and he was there with some other teachers. Us girls got ready and the first thing he said to me was 'wow you look nice'!! We was then crossing the road and he held my hand. At this point I was just thinking we were having a giggle around!! Anyway, things started progressing, we ended up having a little dance and ended up staying at his place, nothing happened like that, we just fell asleep in each ovas arms. The next day we kinda acted as nothing happened, slightly akward, however he started asking questions about me, like the usual 'getting to know each other' stage!! Everyone including the other teacers have said he likes me. I don't really know how to take it, he is 32, i am 18, thats 14 years gap. Is that ok? And plus how do i know if he has real feelings for me? Ever since I have been left with butterflies and whenever I bump into him, it brings the feelings back :crying:
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i'm just wondering...do your parents know?
Ha Ha, aslong as it isnt like that Little Britain sketch.
I doubt it does, it just matters to YOU Jomery. Why should anyone care what other people think, I'd rather be happy then miss out on something because of the thought of what some low life may say about me behind my back.
You must miss out on A LOT of things due to what people may think of you.
This whole "why should anyone care what other people think" thing I find so bizarre, surely you'd rather people think you're a legend than a loser? Surely you'd not find it nice thinking people are talking negatively about you behind your back?
I find that really sad if so.
But like I said for most people it's not like there's only one person who can possibly make them 'happy' with so many million fish in the sea. I'm sure the OP could find someone their own age who could make them happy so why choose to be gossiped about?
Maybe step back and take a look at yourself, the things you say on this board are more shocking and make you look much worse as a person than going out with a teacher would.
Anyway this isn't the issue in question.
I wouldn't give a fuck, the point is you do what makes YOU happy, if people want to gossip about you then fair enough let them, not everyone is as pathetic as that.
In the above case many people would be pleased that the girl has found someone that makes her happy, 14 years older and her ex teacher or not. A few weeks of people gossiping is nothing compared to a possible life time of happiness, plus such people that talk behind your back aren't worth your time anyway.
You must just socialise with he wrong people, maybe your high class possibly stuck up friends may think such things but not everyone is like that.
Or you could see it as a good chance to find out who your real friends are, the ones who can see beyond the gossip and tittle tattle and who'll fight your corner.
It might seem a bit unusual at first, but if they happen to be anything even approaching a good friend, then as long as it's bringing a smile to your face then they won't give a fuck and they'll be happy that you're happy.
In the case of the OP, she's left and so, as far as the law is concerned, there is nothing wrong with what they're doing. My only advice would be to leave it for a while, just to make sure that the attraction is just based on the 'he's my teacher and it's so exciting' thing. As for the age gap, it shouldn't matter but it can do. Some people change a lot as they get older and other people don't. Just don't rush into things. Enjoy being friends first and then build it from there.
I think you'll find that most people on here won't care what others think. I for one certainly don't.
How old are you Jomery?
It doesn't matter what other people think. If they're gonna judge you on stupid things then they're obviously not worth hanging out with anyway. Too many people are so up their own arse and bitchy and intrusive in other people's lives that it's hard to believe that they have the time to tend to their own ever exciting lives.
Speaking from personal experience... I'm a straight talker, I say what I think and I usually don't sugar coat it. This has got me enemies, but at the same time it's got me respect. I would rather get respect off a few people for who I really am than a false respect from more people because of who I'm not.
As for the original point... Do wha you wanna do and don't give a shit what anyone thinks. It's your life and the people who are mature, intelligent, or cool enough to respect that are the only people worth hanging out with. Imo of course
You'll never know what he feels because you're not him, but he seems to like you so far. I'd see how it goes, keep your guard up and keep smilng.