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it ruins it - totally.
Yeah, I guess... but you'd have to be wasted for it to happen because even if I knew my friend liked me back, I wouldn't just suggest having sex with her randomly if I was sober lol, and I'm not sure how well she'd take it if she was sober either, even if she wanted it to happen too, but because she'd think that I don't actually like her for her friendship.
If you get me?
a simple answer for me is :yes:
If they're a really good friend and you both understand each other completely then it's fine (for me anyway). I've got a friend who every time I see (not as often as I'd like atm) we sleep together and are all coupley - we don't really arrange to shag but it always just sort of happens. We're not together because it's not practical for either of us at this point in our lives, but somehow it isn't awkward and we're fine about it because there's a lot of mutual respect there. It's not like a fuck buddy when you just fuck for the sake of fucking cause we love each other to bits, but it's not an orthodox relationship either.
It's always a risk though, but you're always always always better not taking the risk if you think it'd fuck up your friendship.
God, no. I mean, we talk about it in a round-about way (such as "I was this age when i lost my virginity" etc) but could never talk about it intimately with them. And it would just be too shameful to talk about toys or anything with them... we're all good girls who wouldn't dream of using such objects as vibrators :angel:
Male friends though, definitely, they seem much more accepting of the whole toys aspect
I wouldn't take it that way...unless they were talking about sex with me.
Hmm. I don't talk about it with all my male friends. Just the ones I'm close to and the ones I'm secure about my friendship with. If i talked about it with a guy i fancied, then yeah, I'd probably be flirting with him.
See previous post, the answer is yes I have.
This person is now my closest confidant and there are things which she knows about me which I would never be able to tell Mrs MoK about. TBH I don't think that either of our partner would ever understand how close we really are.
It's fine assuming atht you both know the rules going in. If it's all about sex then you should both work on that basis and try not to let emotions get involved unless you are both happt with that. Otherwise you lose a friend, simple as.
I buy my close friends male/female presants at bdays/xmas etc.
TBH,i do treat my male friends differently to my female ones. I'm normally a lot more reliable to my male mates.
I have some male friends who if i wern't married it would be OK to sleep with and not ruin our relationship and others who it totally would. But I have no intention of sleeping with any of them at any point so i guess thats a bit hypothetical
i would say i get along with boys just as well as girls but i usually end up getting with my really close lad mates or they tell me they like me and then the friendship is ruined
im a girly girl but i like having a laugh with the boys too i guess
This happened to me with one of my best [male] friends.
Obviously I could've prevented all the drama by simply saying no to the suggestion of going back to his to drink a bottle of tequila when we'd already been out on a session and a half, but sometimes you've got to scratch an itch. I knew immediately on waking up the next morning when he tried to... :nervous:... snuggle that it was going to shoot squarely to the top of my list of regrets and stay there. Cue about a year of embarrassing displays and hysterical crying when we were out with mutual friends - even after I got back together with my ex who was one of his mates - and eventually a massive fall-out. He still enjoys talking cod shit about me all over town but... meh, who cares.
I have slept with other friends and it's had no adverse effects but we always knew the craic and that it was just about having a bit of fun. It was also generally under the influence of drugs rather than drink. My decisions and rational thinking have always been better when illegally intoxicated, funnily enough The amount of bad sex decisions I have made when pissed out of my tree are innumerable and embarrassing!
As for friends, I buy the really close ones gifts whether they're male or female. It's a bit different for men I think, my boyfriend wouldn't buy his male friends birthday/Christmas pressies but he'd probably get the female ones a bottle of wine or some flowers. The only blokes he gets presents for are his brothers, really.
Generally I enjoy spending time with men, more. My best female friends are the best in the world but for going down the pub, hitch-hiking to the Lake District, going on random magical mystery tours then it's blokes all the way. They're just a bit... easier (?) :razz: