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why didnt he ask me
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My boyfriend told me yesterday he was going out for his bosses birthday tonight, i didnt think that much about it but he came home this evening to get ready and when i asked him who was going out for it, he told me all his work mates and there wifes/girlfriends were going but he didnt even bother asking me to come :shocking:
i wasnt really that annoyed at first but when i think about it now, its bugging me cos im wondering why he didnt bother to ask me. its making me suspious because i know that a new girl started working in the company a few weeks ago and im wondering if he wants her to think he's single by not inviting me.
sorry for ranting on, but this has just annoyed me so much
i wasnt really that annoyed at first but when i think about it now, its bugging me cos im wondering why he didnt bother to ask me. its making me suspious because i know that a new girl started working in the company a few weeks ago and im wondering if he wants her to think he's single by not inviting me.
sorry for ranting on, but this has just annoyed me so much
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does sound a bit out of order like
Maybe he's spending so much time with you, that he wants to go out alone and have some alone time with his collegues once in a while.
You should have asked him.
been together about 18 months
yeah thats fair enough if he wants to go out by himself i dont mind, i just dont understand why he came home and said everyones bringing there wifes/gf and then he didnt even ask me to go.. he should of just said nothing about the wifes etc and just went
if he's convincing the new girl he's single in every day life then you've got serious problems. if, as i would hope, not, then i wouldn't worry about that.
have you been out to this kind of social thing with him before?
i'd just ask him straight out personally.
well im goa ask him whats going on tomor cos dnt wana fight with him when he's drunk.
quote;have you been out to this kind of social thing with him before?
yeah i've been out with them before and we had a great night, he even told me they all thought i was lovely and his work mates told him he should make sure not to fuck things up with me
Definatley! 18 months is pretty solid. Just ask him why and let him know what you think about it. Some guys are thoughtless like that from time to time.
i will be talking to him when he wakes up, and im even more annoyed now, because he came home in such a state last night and he ended up falling asleep on the toilet and when i went in to wake him he called me by his ex girlfriends name.. i was so annoyed i slept in the spare room.
could have been a dream... when my ex nearly spooned me off of the edge of the bed I woke up and caller her a very peculiar name too (oh and I spoke in the wrong language too, so she did not understand shit)...
yea, let us know how it went.
If he's relatively new/junior and it's one of the higher up peoples events then it maybe he wasn't explicitly told her could bring someone, or he didn't feel confident inviting someone along.
Some of the work things I go to I'd take the boy, others I wouldn't because they are the bosses events and I'm pretty junior so I take it as just me being invited.
I would agree- but I work with my fella and it's always been fine. We've worked together since day dot and have been together nearly 2 years now.
That said, I know some people to prefer to keep things seperate which is fair enough I guess. Nonetheless, might be worth having a chat just to get your feelings out in the open
That's not the point he was trying to make...
If you don't actually work with your parter already, it's a different situation.
i'd agree BUT his other work mates took partners along, so I dont see why he wouldnt have asked her, not like it was a lads night out
I did think that exact same thing after I'd posted. Excuse me, im tres tired
... and she has met them before and so it sounds like it shouldn't have been an issue.
yes it is an issue
regardless of if they met or not, it was a night out which included partners, so she should have been included, as she is a partner
infact i'd say it was MORE of an issue
Noooooooooooo you spaz
It shouldn't have been an issue her going with him to this thing as she got along with and was accepted by everybody at previous meetings etc!
Chloroform
So decided to let him do his own thing and instead of sitting waiting for him i've decided to go out with the girls for drinks..
thing is though it was a work do but WITH partners