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I been with ma bf for ova a 3 months now and he has recently asked me if i would go down on him i didn knw what to say at first cause i was in shock then we talked bout it and he said that if he done it to me would i do it to him but i dunno what to say dont get me wrong i love and trust him but him asking the kind throu me if you get what i mean. what would you do if you was in my position.
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If you don't want to do it, don't.
I love going down on my boyfriend and do so regularly, but he has been down on me maybe 3 times early on in the two years we've been together. I would never dream of demanding he go down on me, and as he doesn't like it I don't even ask, it can be very off putting as you've found out. Just don't let it put you off completely.
Jesus, I completely missed that bit.
You shouldn't feel obliged to do anything that you don't want to do. He's an arse if he pressures you.
If you feel comfortable and happy doing it, then go for it. If not, then think about why not - is it because you just don't like the idea? Or because you've had bad experiences? You've said that you trust him, if it's because you don't like the idea or have had bad experiences or anything else then you need to talk to him about it - relationships are about communication, and they don't last that well unless you talk to each other. It is quite an intimate experience but so is sex. I personally enjoy it, but if it's not for you, then don't feel pressurised into doing it - he should understand if you don't like it and there are plenty of other ways for him to get off!
If you've not done it before, then again, you need to talk to him. Ask him what he enjoys, what feels good. It's the only way you'll learn and he'll certainly enjoy it
Whereas I'm the exact opposite if you change three to 2, and remove the implication that he got anything out of it >.<. But he doesn't mind. In fact, if I ever imply that I might want to, he stops me from doing anything to him.
Anyway, OP, if you don't want to do it he shouldn't be pressurising you into doing so. If he asks you that "if I do it to you, will you do it to me?" question again, say "only if I feel like I'm ready to". It is pretty daunting, particularly if you've never done it before, so I can't blame you for being scared of it.
thnks for all your comments so far, but keep them coming. in answer to some of your questions. i am not sure what to do because i have never done it before, therefore wouldn know what exactly to do, the outCum lol is also off putting the whole thing of how it taste etc puts me off. i was also shocked because it has never been mentioned before so when it was mentioned is was just slightly shocking. Keep the comments coming though please and if you could help with the reasons as to why i am put off doing it that would be great
are you actually having sex or doing anything at all sexual? I'd recommend just starting to kiss him other places than just his lips...shoulders, back, arms, hips...work your way up to it. don't just unzip his trousers one day and start sucking - that's not the way to encourage yourself. you don't have to go the whole way the first few times either - just kiss him all over and then stop. build it up rather than pressuring yourself into thinking that the first time has to be the most amazing thing he's ever felt.
if you don't want to, don't let him pressure you into it, but i'd certainly say don't knock it 'til you've tried it. I love doing it, and I appreciate that other girls hate it, but I really don't think it's something you should never do because you put too much pressure on yourself to begin with.
ooh and remember that diet will have a big impact on how good he tastes, so make sure he's eating well and not drinking too much.
how do you know about the taste if you have never done it?
Just curious.
well... you 'aint going to find anyone honestly telling you it tastes nice
Does your boyfriend know you've never done it before? If not, I think you should tell him, because he will know to be more sensitive and give you lots of guidance and so on if he knows that. I would certainly say give it a try, because you might love it. Of course, you might not and there's obviously nothing wrong with that, but you'll never know unless you try.
However, I would also say, don't be pressured into it- try it because you want to try it, not because you feel like you have to or because someone is making you.
Well it's not the most delicious delicacy on the planet, but it's not unpleasant! Don't be out off by what you might have heard other people say, OP....the only way you'll find out if you like it or what you think of how he tastes is if you try it.....but like everyone else has said, only if you feel comfortable doing it.
Let him guide you as to what he likes and you'll soon be having him completely in your power. You'll learn how to tease, how to make him beg for more etc and it is by far the way you can be totally in control...or maybe I'm just a power crazy annoying bitch who loves making him do exactly what I want and teasing, but either way, he loves it, I love it so whats the problem there.
As others have said, start slowly and don't feel you have to go all the way with it the first time. If you prefer try a 69, means the focus isnt entirely on what you're doing and perhaps will make you feel more comfortable. As for the taste it really isn't that bad at all. It does depend on diet, but there's been very few guys that have tasted really bad in my experience.
Really ?
Thats suprising .. I don't mind at all but i have to really fancy the person at the time, i only did it to one of my old boyfriends once cos i reeeeeally didnt fancy him .. makes me wonder why i was with im really
handjobs are boring in my opinion
if you dont feel comfortable giving head dont do it wait til the right moment when you want to do it
Handjobs are the only thing I'm going to be giving. Blowjobs are a no-no. Too many bad experiences, some men just seem to expect you enjoy it. Its doesnt taste nice, the consitency, taste and often being expected to swollow cum, are also put offs. I love having oral done on me and dislike being fingered most of the time though. Different strokes for different folks.
Scene 1: Woman remarks on how large man's penis is before giving a blowjob.
Scene 2: Man enters woman and she groans at a ridicilously loud volume.
Scene 3: Man and woman have sex in lots of different positions, many of whom are simply to show penetration on camera.
Scene 4: Woman gets on knees and begs man to "cum on my face" or something equally cliched and banal.
It's a sequence I find rather dull. Where's the scene where the man is giving her oral sex, for God's sake? I view handjobs as a happy medium between the two extremes.
And no, I do not want to see this up for nomination as Post of the Week in a few days time!
I'd suggest that's because you have, quite clearly, watched waaaaayyy too much porn.
I don't think that's going to be a problem.
I rarely see porn without it. Anyway, yeah I reckon most mens initial expectations of sex come from porn. They expect all these ridiculous positions that look good on camera will feel just as good in real life, and you won't stop halfway through going "ah, ah, ah, cramp, cramp, gimme a sec."