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I always thought I'd start a family young, that's just the way I pictured my life. Therefore I feel really lucky and fit to burst with happiness that I've met the person I want to do all that with while I am young. It's a pretty special feeling.
I imagine we'll probably get married at some point, it seems less important now than it did before and I can't imagine it being for a while anyway. I probably feel that way because kids are definitely commitment enough on their own, and also - for me - the idea of making a child together (as squeal said) is more beautiful - or romantic, I suppose - than the idea of marriage I love the idea of having my wee kiddies at my wedding, unconventional as that is sometimes still seen.
Kids - now ha no seriously about 20/21. Put it this way I am planning a big bash for my 18th and for my 21st I hope to be off the alcohol or having a family meal with a baba. But it all depends on finding "him" and when I will find him.
Damn, you mean someone actually noticed I was gone?!
Lol, you implying I didn't have a life before?! Seriously, I've just been busy with stuff. I'm sort of semi-retired from thesite! But I'll be around... :thumb:
Yeah, but you can have all that, yet not throw a pile of cash down the drain just so you get to wear a silly dress and feel special for a day... I can just envisage much better use for vast quantities of cash!
I dont think I could do it at the moment, so married within a couple of years and babies not long after that. So how about 26 and then 27? That sounds ok to me
He leads the kind of life I lead when I take time off work. Oh, except I didn't drive a crappy Audi TT. Well, apart for a month until I got my car back.
It's superb! Then I run out of cash and have to go back to work. Arses.
Anyway as it was i got married at 27 - which felt really young - loads of my friends are still unmarried and apart from last year when a staggering 6 people I knew got married - i still hadly know any married people my age.
I would like to have children by the time i'm 30 but that is physically impossible. I also need to decide weather to put of having children for a few more years and do more carrear stuff or have children and no carrear (well at least for a bit..........)
and children? eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeugh. i'm much too selfish.
2. probably 25 or 26 at the earliest.
2) When I'm ready.
How can you possibly put an age on these things? At some point I'm sure it will all feel right and I may or may not want to get married and have children. I'm not putting an ideal age on it though, as I'm not going to know that until it happens.
I definitely forsee both though, and I know who with
:yes:.
I know I want both, but that doesn't mean I know WHEN I want them. I know it'll be once I've finished uni, and when both me and the OH are in steady jobs and we have a house and things like that.
My cousin once said to me to wait until I was at least in my late 20's before I had kids, so I could live my own life first. I agree with that :yes:.
My ex used to, when drunk, go on about having kids and settling down with me but there was no way in hell I would even have considered it.
Then why bother being with him? If you would never have considered it, implies you don't think he's trustworthy enough (or appealing enough) to spend any significant amount of time with....confusing!! :chin:
Perhaps that's why he's an ex
Ha!! Suppose!! But it's funny..it's not like I go around thinking every bloke I'm with will be the father of my children, but he always has good qualities I like, and could consider it as a faint possibility....don't think my automatic reaction (even with the worst of them!) would have been "no way in hell!!" if he had have suggested it...
Too bloody right. That was my reaction at the time as I always knew the relationship wasnt going to last. My reaction now would be to run and hide far far away. Relationships dont work out for a reason and I certainly dont go into any relationship thinking I'm going to marry the guy or have babies with them coz things dont work out that way.
I don't really want to get married, but i wouldn't mind having some kind of thing...handfasting perhaps...
As for getting married, I'm as good as married already and have been since I was 21 I'm not sure I want to go through the whole messy planning/having a wedding...all that fuss for an hour or so :no: I threatened when I was 20 and met my partner that if we ever got married it would be in a registry office and we'd wear jeans & t-shirts and not tell anyone, just mention it in passing during general conversation God that would piss so many people off :chin:
So, would that mean that you'd be wearing jeans & t-shirt and some others would turn up in suits and stuff?
28ish to both.
Im 23 now though and i ended my relationship with my fiance last year.
Lol i always thought i'd be a teenage mum :chin:
Thank god i wasn't!