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do you
a) want children?
b)want to get married?
a) want children?
b)want to get married?
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a) 10 years ago
b) 6 years ago
I would want to have my first child between that age of about 26-28.
In terms of getting married, I am not too fussed. Just whenever the time is right.
I always wanted to get married young and well i did...i was married at 20
As for marriage, i'd like to get married when i'm about 23, obviously that depends on if i've found the right guy by then and if i can afford a wedding.
I wish it was simple but there are so many factors you have to take into account its hard to say.
married 23 (which gives me less than a year)
haha
Simple
I mean, it takes enough energy out of you as it is, so stands to reason the younger you are, the more reserve energy you have!
But I'm nearly 25 now, so that'd mean finding a man, getting settled with him and then getting pregnant all within the next 2 - 4 years, which seems like a bit of a tall order!! And I sometimes get worried that if I'm too young when I have a child, I won't know enough to teach them about the world yet...:chin:
Would like to get married, but the child thing is more important to me...and if I get married before or after I have a child, it doesn't really bother me either way.
Why not?
I *hate* kids, this seems to deepen as days go by, and I just don't see the point in marriage.
Huge waste of time and money in virtually every case. For me, it's just not something I am interested in. At all.
You could do what that crazy girl on here did and plan for a baby after like, 1 month. That'd be sensible! :thumb:
That's about as sensible as having one with you because you love children so much
Yeah, you're not far off.
I can't wait until the male pill is released... I'll be one of the first people on it.
Not really bothered about marriage, I used to be but since my parents divorced it just seems less relevant.
Exactly. So many fail, and I just don't see the point in shelling out many thousands of pounds on a single day. Just an utter waste of money.
I think a lot of people feel that way when such things happen, it's a shame, i don't think if my parents divorced id be put off, its down to you to make the relationship work and there are plenty of marriages that are successful.
I'm sure its good whilst it lasts though, if you keep the relationship strong and work together there is no reason why you shouldn't be together always.
I can't wait for the day i marry the man i love and make a child which is part of us both. Ha im such an old romantic
Ha ha!!! :thumb: Seems there's hope, with a new plan, after all...:chin:
Long time no see
And yeah in answer to your question, id be happy to die at about 78 or something :razz:
But yeah you are right you don't know what will happen, i could be dead tomorrow you never know. Obviously this is all speaking in an ideal world and you have ages in your head because who would want children when you are 50, you want to be able to enjoy them whilst your still young.
Awww...that's nice!! But try & be a little realistic too - so that if it doesn't work out, and you don't end up 'working together' (sadly, some people find they don't want to be part of a team after all, even though they signed up to it in the first place), it's not toooo hard to take....:thumb:
Hi
Nah, this is just not my philosophy anymore. I might have kids one day, who knows, but I definately don't think about what age - I'm not sure I even want them. I daydream about the future and the possibilities as much as the next guy, but I don't want it all planned out - I spent years doing that and it drove me mad. These days I just wanna see where life takes me. That's more fun to me, and I feel a damn sight more alive for it...
As much as it'd be nice to live a long time and be around everyone still, the standard of life just gets shitter, i'd rather die being able to walk properly and do what i like doing than living 10 more extra years not being able to get out the chair without being in pain and getting out of breath after walking 10 meters if you know what i mean.
Same as, really.
I like the way I life my life justnow - if I fuck up then it's only me who suffers, I'm not responsible for anybody elses happiness and I'm perfectly happy living as an island like Hugh Grant does in About a Boy :yes:
I've been told that it's a waste and I could make some girl so happy one day, but I dunno about that really