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haha i kinda need sum serious help.... plz reply

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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alright i recently lost my virginity and im kinda embarrassed about even posting this, but i had sex with this girl and it was missionary, and then she went on top, nd we were having sex for 28 minutes, and i didnt cum, and then again a few days ago nd i didnt cum again, idk what the deal is, i used reg condoms the 1st time, nd ultra thins the second time, could sum1 please help me as to how i could cum quicker i would really appreciate it..
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    worrying about it wont help, nor will timing it. the very fact you know it lasted 28 minutes is probably why you didnt cum!


    try not to think of the ultimate goal... if anything, use the time to see if you can make her cum :)

    you might also want to try longer foreplay before hand. but like I said, I expect anxiety is the main cause.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i did make her cum haha, nd the foreplay is good, its jsut that idk, like wen i masterbate i guess i have like a certain technique or rythm, haha its its kinda hard 2 mimic that during sex haha, like im just very worried lol the grl said that i was really good, nd i did make her cum but in terms of me, like i dont really like missionary cuz its not very comfortable nd then she was on top nd like idk haha im really worried
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Having sex is a different feeling from masturbating, it takes some people a while to get used to it.

    Try doggy style out, I find it the easiest position to get your own rythm, and perhaps that your not facing each other may take the pressure your feeling away.

    And at the end of the day, your getting 28 minutes worth of a great thing! I bet she would be complaining more if you came after 1 minute
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    practie makes perfect, like you said, you're really worried :) this is entirely natural... and also probably the source of your problems!

    so try and relax a bit, dont put yourself down if it doesnt happen the next time, there's nothing wrong with you.

    besides, sex feels much nicer than masturbation so I'm sure you'll get it soon enough :p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't be worried....relax, experiment! It's a natural function, so it'll happen in the end....regardless of you being pretty new to sex, with any new partner, it takes time to get to know what works for both of you, so like I said, just relax and take yer time.....:thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I typed all this out
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    olaola wrote: »
    Having sex is a different feeling from masturbating, it takes some people a while to get used to it.

    Try doggy style out, I find it the easiest position to get your own rythm, and perhaps that your not facing each other may take the pressure your feeling away.

    And at the end of the day, your getting 28 minutes worth of a great thing! I bet she would be complaining more if you came after 1 minute


    before this post was even made, haha. Mind reader:yes:

    nyj360 wrote: »
    well i did make her cum haha, nd the foreplay is good, its jsut that idk, like wen i masterbate i guess i have like a certain technique or rythm, haha its its kinda hard 2 mimic that during sex haha, like im just very worried lol the grl said that i was really good, nd i did make her cum but in terms of me, like i dont really like missionary cuz its not very comfortable nd then she was on top nd like idk haha im really worried
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks alot everyone i really appreciate ur help, its alittle akward 2 talk about, but idk after we had sex she was like soo happy nd i was really upset, cuz it felt great its jsut that idk, do u think that itll come ( no pun intended) with practice, like the more sex i have, the more i controll it, cuz from wut i heard the 1st time 4 guyz usually lasts around 30 seconds haha not 30 mins... nd if there are any other positions u guyz would reccomend
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The main thing is to stop worrying. It's perfectly normal for it to take a while to get used to the different sensations that sex brings, and for the two of you to get used to each other. The fact that you're very conscious of your performance time will only stop you relaxing and enjoying the experience properly. You need to relax, don't even think about the time. The most important thing is that you're both enjoying yourselves. You've said that she's enjoying herself, and so she should be, she's not gonna be complaining with multiple orgasms for an hour!

    Just a bit of advice, try not to use text talk too much if you can help it, it doesn't go down too well around here. :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    haha arite ill just stop thinking about it, nd another thing that i hear is a good this is that she says that shes like sore and cant really walk after we have sex haha im not gonna lie like i have a pretty nice size, but is it a good or bad thing that shes sore?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Is she pretty new to sex too?? Cos if so, I'd say that's normal....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, obviously it's not a good thing that she's sore, I'm sure she doesn't want to be! But it's not uncommon for girls to feel sore after sex, especially if the sex has been particularly rough or lasted for a long time. Try to make her as comfortable as possible by making sure she's nicely lubricated etc through foreplay and the like, that'll minimise the soreness. But as I said, it's not uncommon, and nothing to particularly worry about, it'll ease off in a day or two.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nyj360 wrote: »
    haha arite ill just stop thinking about it, nd another thing that i hear is a good this is that she says that shes like sore and cant really walk after we have sex haha im not gonna lie like i have a pretty nice size, but is it a good or bad thing that shes sore?

    normal I think, for any girl having sex for the first time, or first time in ages. this goes for guys of any size really. just need to spend lotsa time on foreplay, and not be too rough.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    alright haha i think that answers all my qs, ill try the relaxing thing, but if its still not working haha im just gonna wait nd c, like i really dont mind not cumming if shes enjoying herself, like obv i want 2 but im not gonna sweat it, it really doesnt matter 2 her, nd at the end of the day, her enjoying herself is what matters, haha if i have anymore q's ill kno where 2 go, thanks alot guyz
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it's much more important that you feel comfy around her, that way you can laugh it all off regardless if you cum too quickly or not cum at all. :P
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fucking hell.

    I'm getting old because I can't follow a fucking thing that the OP is typing. Whatever happened to telling newbies about not using txt talk?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Man Of Kent wrote: »
    Fucking hell.

    I'm getting old because I can't follow a fucking thing that the OP is typing. Whatever happened to telling newbies about not using txt talk?

    I did, but he didn't pay any attention. :(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry guys, no more txt talk
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nyj360 wrote: »
    no more txt talk

    :lol::lol::lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree with what others have said, timing it is not a good thing! You are supposed to be lost in the moment and not worry about other things. Just try and have fun and relax, a bit more foreplay might help.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How do you know it took 28 minutes?

    The fact that you were counting may have had something to do with it...

    Keep your eyes on the prize boyo.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nyj360 wrote: »
    alright i recently lost my virginity and im kinda embarrassed about even posting this,

    Thanks for dropping the text talk. And never be embarrassed - there is almost nothing that this board hasn't seen that would make your experience seem unusual. And some people suffer from premature ejaculation (cumming too quickly) which, in my opinion, is worse than not coming quickly enough. As other posters have said, you may need more foreplay. Also, make sure your foreskin is pulled back properly before you put your condom on.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nyj360 wrote: »
    alright i recently lost my virginity and im kinda embarrassed about even posting this, but i had sex with this girl and it was missionary, and then she went on top, nd we were having sex for 28 minutes, and i didnt cum, and then again a few days ago nd i didnt cum again, idk what the deal is, i used reg condoms the 1st time, nd ultra thins the second time, could sum1 please help me as to how i could cum quicker i would really appreciate it..

    I really wouldn't worry about it, the first 3 times i had sex i didn't come at all, made me feel like a right stud!

    Then for the next month or so i was lasting well over an hour, which again made me feel like a porn star.

    Now... well i dream of those sorts of times!

    I think it's natural when you first start having sex for it to be all over the place, you could go for days of hard frantic pounding, or last 30 seconds, they are all new sensations!

    If its such an issue, start with something more familiar, perhaps get her to wank you until your almost there, or try those tingle lubes etc... ?

    End of the day i wouldn't worry about it at this stage
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nyj360 wrote: »
    i dont really like missionary cuz its not very comfortable nd then she was on top nd like idk haha im really worried

    If you like her on top then go with that...I can probably count on my fingers the numbers of time I've had sex in the missionary position, and me and my boyfriend have been sleeping together for 5 and a half years!

    As has been suggested, give a few other positions a go, like doggy style or her feet over your shoulders....
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Meryn wrote: »
    like doggy style or her feet over your shoulders....

    :yes:

    Deeper positions are best for stimulation, there's been some sound advice in this thread.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You just need to build yourself a riddim my son ! :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    haha i really appreciate the advice everyone, ill just let it happen and not worry about it haha i mean shes saying how sore she is so ill have to spend more time in missionary but the more i think about it the more im thinking that mayb its the condom haha, like its straight up sufficating haha so mayb there is an alternative i dont know, but she cant stop talking about my size and my riddim haha so i dont know if its me, maybe its just the condom...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It was weird for me, i didn't either the first time i guess it was nervousness, but it's not like she hadn't made me before.:thumb: Infact like someone said, when i first got with Mrs Peters it would last for hours, now she's lucky to get 10 minutes.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know I certainly had this problem. First time, an yeap, I got slightly worried like you did. You just have to get used to it. Theres a certain position for everyone an once you find it, fuck the seashores and sand castles of britain away an let loose with ravenous sex juice!

    who ever said sex was easy anyway?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Box wrote: »
    fuck the seashores and sand castles of britain away an let loose with ravenous sex juice!

    Beautiful....almost poetic...brought a tear to my eye!!! :D:p
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yea i really liked that line, haha you guys have sum very good advice i deff think it could be the condom also, like no joke, its suffocating and very uncomfortable
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