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haha i kinda need sum serious help.... plz reply
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alright i recently lost my virginity and im kinda embarrassed about even posting this, but i had sex with this girl and it was missionary, and then she went on top, nd we were having sex for 28 minutes, and i didnt cum, and then again a few days ago nd i didnt cum again, idk what the deal is, i used reg condoms the 1st time, nd ultra thins the second time, could sum1 please help me as to how i could cum quicker i would really appreciate it..
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try not to think of the ultimate goal... if anything, use the time to see if you can make her cum
you might also want to try longer foreplay before hand. but like I said, I expect anxiety is the main cause.
Try doggy style out, I find it the easiest position to get your own rythm, and perhaps that your not facing each other may take the pressure your feeling away.
And at the end of the day, your getting 28 minutes worth of a great thing! I bet she would be complaining more if you came after 1 minute
so try and relax a bit, dont put yourself down if it doesnt happen the next time, there's nothing wrong with you.
besides, sex feels much nicer than masturbation so I'm sure you'll get it soon enough
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before this post was even made, haha. Mind reader:yes:
Just a bit of advice, try not to use text talk too much if you can help it, it doesn't go down too well around here.
normal I think, for any girl having sex for the first time, or first time in ages. this goes for guys of any size really. just need to spend lotsa time on foreplay, and not be too rough.
I'm getting old because I can't follow a fucking thing that the OP is typing. Whatever happened to telling newbies about not using txt talk?
I did, but he didn't pay any attention.
The fact that you were counting may have had something to do with it...
Keep your eyes on the prize boyo.
Thanks for dropping the text talk. And never be embarrassed - there is almost nothing that this board hasn't seen that would make your experience seem unusual. And some people suffer from premature ejaculation (cumming too quickly) which, in my opinion, is worse than not coming quickly enough. As other posters have said, you may need more foreplay. Also, make sure your foreskin is pulled back properly before you put your condom on.
I really wouldn't worry about it, the first 3 times i had sex i didn't come at all, made me feel like a right stud!
Then for the next month or so i was lasting well over an hour, which again made me feel like a porn star.
Now... well i dream of those sorts of times!
I think it's natural when you first start having sex for it to be all over the place, you could go for days of hard frantic pounding, or last 30 seconds, they are all new sensations!
If its such an issue, start with something more familiar, perhaps get her to wank you until your almost there, or try those tingle lubes etc... ?
End of the day i wouldn't worry about it at this stage
If you like her on top then go with that...I can probably count on my fingers the numbers of time I've had sex in the missionary position, and me and my boyfriend have been sleeping together for 5 and a half years!
As has been suggested, give a few other positions a go, like doggy style or her feet over your shoulders....
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Deeper positions are best for stimulation, there's been some sound advice in this thread.
who ever said sex was easy anyway?
Beautiful....almost poetic...brought a tear to my eye!!!