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I have less than £50 to my name at the moment! And if I'd wanted to stay somewhere else they would have been quite offended I think and asked why.
I don't dislike him that much that I wouldn't want to go to the ceromony. It was a lovely day and I'm happy they're getting married. I just dislike the lack of respect he's had since he came here. And like I said - if it didn't happen all the time I wouldn't be bothered about the wedding night
How do you know I'm not cardiff Ha you're right though I'm in my final year at UWIC. Hoping to do a post grad course at glam, and its cheaper living up there than cardiff
I think your mum and stepdad are right, much as its uncomfortable. They are entitled to a sex life. Are the walls really crap in their house, I know in my house you can hear a sneeze two rooms away.
I'm sure I have had sex that people could hear, but like I've said before occasionally you get carried away and you realise and don't do it again. To be honest I was always quiet when I lived in a shared house. And I'd never have sex in my mams house, and i've never done it when guests were staying in mine - ESPECIALLY if its family
Yeah the walls are like that. But they know they are. You'd have thought they'd be embarassed that people can hear them. I can hear them in the corridor, the living room and the room next to them when they're doing it. They're obviously not giving a shit about whether we hear or not
But they should know better. I get the impression of them being quite disrespectful and selfish but hey, who knows? just wait out the tide.
Why should they stop just to avoid upsetting your sensibilities, though?
We had our sister-in-law staying with us- we had sex, and she had sex with her bf, and we could definitely hear her. But that's not her problem, really.
IMHO you are being too fussy about it, and have got unrealistic expectations of it, especially by letting it get to such an argument that you had to move out. Though a bit of courtesy to keep the noise down if you're only there once in a blue moon wouldn't go amiss.
I didn't move out because we argued I moved out because I hated lying there night after night having to listen to them
Chill Fiend, no use getting angry over nothing...
As for the 'real wedding' aspect:
I think they're being inconsiderate but maybe last night was a one off. I've been told that everyone could hear me before so now if people are in it's always 'quiet sex'. The noisy screaming stuff is reserved for when we've got the house to ourselves.
Can you imagine screaming 'oh fuck I'm cooooooooooommmmmmmmmmmiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnnggggg' with your mum watching coronation street in the next room? Maybe you could always get revenge, get your boyfriend to do you really hard up against their bedroom wall or something
If I lived with people, id wait till they were gone out or expect them to probably be able to hear us.
Indeed. In our flat you can hear everything which is, er, interesting at times it has to be said. Doesn't stop anyone getting their rocks off though, and I didn't think it was rude to have sex while you had guests but maybe I'm just ignorant
I sympathise as it's gotta be weird hearing your mum having sex [especially with someone you don't like] but basically I don't think it's worth getting so worked up about since you're not there 99% of the time. Live and let live (or shag and let shag), it's not pleasant but it's also not worth making a huge issue out of imo -- especially since it was their wedding night.
What else do you expect them to do? Stop having sex just because she can hear them?
Personally I would buy earplugs. Or is there anyway you can go out for a bit then just come back later? or sleep somewhere else (even if it's just the sofa)?
Aw, poor didums.
You're hilarious.
IME: spooning, and trying not to make noise (pillows are good for biting) seems to work.
I think her mum's out of order to be bringing boyfriends back when she was only 16 not long after she'd got divorced and shagging loudly in the next room. From the sounds of things, she's doing what she wants rather than being considerate. She'll happily hold her hands up and say sorry when confronted, but when she's getting passionate again and knows her daughter is upset about it 'oh well'.
Well maybe not that extreme, but I think she's been inconsiderate. Maybe not this particular instance as it was her wedding night, but before, definately just after the divorce.
*shrug*
And you could have told them why. I know you've talked about it with your mum before but she'll not be the only person in the world who needs things telling more than once before they fully sink in. I mean, yeah it's an embarrassing topic to bring up but it's obviously something that bothers you to a huge extent, and however much you rant on here, it isn't going to make the situation improve. If you actually want things to change then you're going to have to confront her in some way or another.
Although i think i would be even more embaressed if one day they informed me to keep it down because they could hear me going at it.
my bed at uni is so unbelievably squeaky, good job i'm not getting much at the mo! :grump:
Nothing you can do tbh. Just put a pillow over your head. Tis what I did for four years.