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Allow me to explain. When I started uni on the 16th September, I was doing so with some serious issues hanging over my head. As Freshers Week went on, I was too busy making phone calls and sorting out paperwork to go to events. Besides which, because of severe money problems (no student bank account, and student loan cock-ups) I couldn’t spare any money to buy tickets for things. Anyway, as the week went on, it became clear that my position was untenable. Freshers Week was meant to be about getting drunk, meeting people, and enjoying oneself. I was doing none of that because of all these problems. This was the worst possible start to what's meant to be the best three years of my life, and I suspected it was not worth continuing the experience.
For that reason, and many others which I cannot elaborate on here, I've decided not to study at UWE. Instead, I'm going to spend the next year doing some real work, and learning those life skills which I so badly need. I'm intending to re-apply for 2007 entry. I don't know where I will be in the end, but I suspect it will be closer to home than before. A side of me wishes I'd gone to Manchester now.
I'm very saddened to have left today. I arrived home this afternoon. However, I'm now brimming with hope. Hopeful for what the future holds, and absolutely determined to succeed. I know that the university experience will be the best thing that has ever happened to me. I also know that I'm not mature enough yet to do this.
we all have problems in life sg but you'll never get anywhere until you actually face them. so what if you missed freshers week? its only one week and it certainly doesn't define your time at university. nor will it stop you from making friends. i was faced with the shittest problem when i first moved to uni -i found out i had to share a bedroom and i was scared to death, especially because i had a boyfriend at home who woud neve rbe able to visit me because of it. but i stuck it out and got on with it. fuckin hell.
one question, why did you give up just because you missed freshers week though?
I wasn't happy with where I was living. I thought it was too far from the campus, and it wasn't entirely appropriate for a fresher student. I looked everywhere for another place, I tried just about every option I had. I wanted to move, but I couldn't afford to do so. I was utterly miserable at my accommodation, and I don't think it was in my best interests to stay there. But I didn't have the £1500 or so that I needed to move into a new place in halls immediately. So, in a sense, my hand was forced.
I like being right I'm sure you're doing the right thing SG. Take a year out, get your head/finances/difficulties together over the next year and you'll do good
Perhaps you need those life skills in order to get though uni instead of learning them there.
:yes: I'm inclined to agree. Sorry to hear it didn't work out SG.
what?!!! my freshers week in my first year was piss poor (not through my own fault, through the university) and i'm in my 3rd year now. just because you had a poor freshers week doesn't mean you have to leave.
bollocks.
'cause i don't do any real work at uni, do i?
And that "real work" thing wasn't a dig at university students. Far from it. I was living with quite a few second and third-year students. When I talked to them, all but one were very hard-working people who were really doing serious work to earn their degree, and I mean work in more than the conventional sense.
Though since you're so keen to find out what my perception of students is, let's have it for the record. I believe most students are hard-working and make considerable sacrifices to make it through uni and earn their degree. However, the overall negative perception of students that society holds isn't exactly helped by students themselves. I find it nauseating when I hear students moan "oh, I haven't got any money" before finding out they'll be in the boozer later for the third time that week. And I'm prepared to stake that most people will agree with that.
It isn't constructive or helpful to be criticising the guy when he's in a bit of a low period. I'm not saying that we should be running round his place with tea and sympathy, but come on, give the guy a break. He's had a crap time of late, and had the bollocks to admit defeat on here.
Why not give him a bit more support for the future and resolving the issues that forced him to leave university in the first place.
I didn't think that either. To me it just implies paid work as opposed to academic.
However, to move into halls, I would have to pay upfront. Bearing in mind that (a) NatWest had cruelly closed my student account due to inactivity and all the banks were refusing to open a new one; and (b) that I would therefore have to pay in cash, I was left in a tight corner. I happen not to have over £1000 lying around to pay for that. My tenancy at the Unite house comes to an end this weekend, and since I would have nowhere to live, this forced me into my final decision. Believe me, it was the most agonising decision I've made in a very long time, and anyone who accuses me of being a "coward" is simply being insulting.
I hope you get straight back on the horse re: next year's application; I honestly think University will be the making of you when you eventually get there.
Have to agree.
If it was just for freshers week then yeah, but if he's got other issues or he doesn't feel ready then it's hard to argue really.
I had a fucking brilliant freshers week (first year was a drunken blur tbh), but course wise it was all wrong and I'm still paying off all the overdrafts and credit cards I took out because I was 18 and naive.
It all depends on what you wanna do really.
A year out working will do you a world of good, especially if you work in a team or a close-knit group.
Good luck an all that
oh and yes he has such balls to tell people on the internet that he quit.. yeah if he had balls he wouldn't have given up so soon. he just cant seem to face any of lifes challenges. i think a lot of people had hopes that university would be really good for sg because he has a lot of growing up to do and a lot to learn about life. he gets his chance and then off he slinks back to the comfort of home.