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I wouldn't care what the stripper was thinking/feeling as I know they don't give a damn and it is just a job, it would be the fact that my boyfriend was actively seeking to have a naked woman with a reasonably nice body (probably nicer than mine) gyrating in his face that would bother me.
It does depend largely on the circumstances though, for eg. if your boyfriend went with a big group of mates as part of a stag night or birthday and didn't pay for any private dances, then it would kind of be more like he had just gone to a bar with his friends where there happens to be strippers, rather than going out with the sole intention of getting his jollies by watching a naked girl dance around. I would just have a chat with him about it and explain how you feel and why you feel that way, and point out that perhaps you wouldn't feel so upset about it if he had actually told you rather than going behind your back and making it look like he has something to hide.
why does a man maturbate when having a woman?
It's just like that. It's not a substitute. There have been no feeling involved. I don't see the big fuss
i know its silly, but im insecure. recently ive been feeling very fat, ugly+stressed+so as a results havnt really felt like doing alot of stuff with him, so the 1st thing that came to mind was that he did it cos i wasnt giving him what he wanted.
its the fact that he lied to me+had a showing thats hurt the most. i mean, it wasnt for a stag do, just one of his mates (who i hate!!) suggested it.
The question is, why would one venture to a strip club when one has a girlfriend? It seems to defeat the purpose. Strip clubs are for divorcees and men who have broke up with their lady and are not used to a sexless environment.
a load of bollocks.
How? So if you were a woman, you'd be happy for your boyfriend to go to a strip club? I certainly wouldn't.
I would. I'd give mine singles too and tell him to stick them in the girl with the cutest panties he sees for me. Well... I have done that. He better not have chose an ugly one.
I agree with Strubble. Junkers post made me flat out laugh. Lucky him I didn't just take a drink.
Which is why I mentioned you own hang-ups earlier. It seemed to me that this was more about you than anything he'd done.
Voyeurism usually has little to do with the relationship you are in - certainly for many men that is the case. It's just a cheap thrill, he knows he's not going to have sex and TBH, if he brings a raging hard-on home and you get the benefit, why worry?
Ever considered that he lied to you because he didn't want you to feel insecure about it? From his perspective it meant nothing to him, so why should it to you?
We have a vote on here for post of the week. Shame we don't have one for stupid post of the week - this would be a dead cert.
Men go to srtip clubs/watch porn/oggle at FHM/Page 3 etc because they like the pictures/images. It has little to do with their feelings.
Going to a strip club is just another form of entertainment. It costs money, it wastes time, like nearly anything else entertaining.
Like posting on here?
I just don't see how paying earned money to sit and get teased is desirable. I'd rather do something beneficial. That's probably just me though.
"Why don't men care about your feelings?"
I mean, what is that about? Did every single man in the world go to a strip club whilst the OP was on holiday, blatently disregarding how she feels about it?
Argh I hate generalisations. People are stupid
I'll change it to something I think is more appropriate, but just PM me if you're not happy with it Sugar
Hey look on the bright side, atleast you wasn't pregnant like I was, when my (ex) boyfriend did that to me!
They tend to have a lack of respect, and obviously don't care about your feelings... :mad:
I was thinking the same thing actually.