boyfriends and strip clubs

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xXxXxSarahxXxXx wrote:

I think also a lot of women who say, they don't mind their partners going to strip-clubs, are probably more insecure than the one's who don't. Maybe they think they are not good enough?..

I can assure you that I wasn't insecure in my relationship with the guy who used to go to strip clubs sometimes with his mates. I'm not entirely sure what it is that I would supposed to be feeling insecure about I am normally quite open to opinions and like to at least consider every side, but I honestly just can't see what people make a fuss about with regards to stripclubs, and I just can't understand these extreme reactions to it :no:

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I can see that one working.

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Depends what she's whingeing about.

Easy to fall in love, easy to fall out of love.

Let me know in five years;)

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i would feel cheated on also, i know my boyfrieind has had private dances in the past but he has only been to a strip club once since we have been together. even thinking about it makes me upset.i hope he will never go again x

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i wouldnt like it if my fella did it

i would never tell him he COULDNT go, but i`d tell him that him going would make me feel uncomfortable and hope he would base his decision on that

if he still chose to go, i`d be pissed off like but at least he`d have been honest with me

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lucifer devil wrote:

so if a gf of yours started saying 'you can't do this, you can't do that' you'd just go with it?

grow a backbone!

i wouldn't have a problem with a bf going to a strip club but if they paid for a private dance i think it'd be different.

Only, in my opinion, that's a bit like saying it's ok to go to the cinema but only if you stay in the foyer and don't watch a movie...

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lucifer devil wrote:

so if a gf of yours started saying 'you can't do this, you can't do that' you'd just go with it?

there is a bit of a difference between "dont drink fanta" and "dont go a stip club"

its not like she`s asked him to stop doin something trivial is it?

its nothin to do with growing a backbone, its about being honest about u feel with each other

i`d rather tell him it`d upset me than not say anythin, let him go, then get in a mood with him